Miscellaneous
What motivates you? How can you feel more fulfilled? Why is change sometimes so hard? These are some of the big questions that we are going to dive into here today. As a certified Enneagram Coach, my work with clients always involves the use of this fantastic assessment tool which not only reveals how we behave, but more importantly, why we behave the way we do. It also leads us to identify our blind spots, triggers, and defense mechanisms, as well as how to confront them, and that’s what I want to share with you here today. We’ll start by looking at how we protect our idealized self-image, the blind spots and defenses that are involved, and what exactly the Enneagram is and what it reveals about us. I’ll also use a number of examples to demonstrate the blind spots, triggers, and defense mechanisms associated with each Enneagram type and offer some ways to confront them as well. We’ll finish up by exploring what exactly you can do with this valuable information, including implementing the ‘lengthen the pause’ strategy. As you know, we’re all about moving forward and growing here at ‘She Doesn’t Settle’, and, as you’ll hear today, the Enneagram, with all that tells us about ourselves and others, is truly one of the keys to making that happen. That is precisely why the Enneagram also plays such a crucial role in my Ascend Mastermind, the next cohort of which is now open as a six month program starting at the end of the summer. If you’re a high achieving entrepreneur or high level professional who is ready to uplevel your health and well-being (mental, emotional, physical) while creating and pursuing goals you actually want then this Mastermind is the perfect opportunity for you. You’ll get to strengthen your habits, get clear on what you want and be held accountable by, and find support among like-minded women as you ascend. Check out the details here: www.kellytravis.net/ascend, and if you would like to hear first hand from someone who has actually gone through one of my Ascend Masterminds, let me know and we can make that happen as well. As always, if there is ever a topic you would like me to discuss or a guest you’d like me to interview on the podcast, please feel free to contact me at pr@kellytravis.net - I would love to hear from you! The Finer Details of This Episode: Protecting our idealized self image Blind spots and defenses The Enneagram Examples of blind spots and confronting them Triggers and some examples of them Defense mechanisms and examples of them What you can do with this information Lengthening the pause Quotes: “It really is a map for understanding our behavior.” “We spend a lot of time creating an idealized self image for ourselves. And we do everything within our power to protect it.” “We go through life on autopilot, we don't think about how we're behaving, how we're showing up. And we filter information through the biases of our personality.” “We just have to be aware of those aspects of our personality that we're subconsciously choosing to ignore or avoid.” “Confronting these blind spots involves looking objectively at our patterns and asking what change to my self image am I resisting? “It's just really interesting to pay attention to these and to think through what might be your trigger.” “If we don't process the events in some way that feels good, then again, it just kind of compounds.” “Every personality is just so dynamic and interesting.” “Rather than reacting blindly to triggers, you can start to work towards a more intentional response, a calmer response.” “The goal is to get to a point where we're able to pause and choose a response - we're not led by old patterns that are not helpful.” “When I work with my clients, we always take this a step further, a couple of steps further, with specific questions they can ask themselves to help challenge that core belief that lies at the heart of every defense mechanism.” “When you know who you are, and then you understand the motivations of the other people in the group. It's so powerful because you get to help one another.” Show Links: Kelly’s homepage - http://www.kellytravis.net Ascend Mastermind - www.kellytravis.net/ascend Research resources: An Introduction to the Power of the Enneagram