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Are you the caregiver in your household? Are you struggling to balance the demands from home and demands from your business? This episode is for you! It's for the person who is either staying up to 3:00 in the morning with a child who's sick, a teenager in drama, parents who are either in a nursing home or in your home, and you're taking care of them. You're a caregiver, you're a provider.TOPICS DISCUSSED IN THIS EPISODE: 1. Don’t Compare Yourself To OthersFor me, it was like I am trying to juggle the world. I had the world on my shoulders. I feel like I'm battling bitterness, anger, and frustration. I'm sluggish because I'm mentally and emotionally exhausted. There are just not enough hours in the day. A tiny part of me, either before I'm peeing after I finished showering, or right when I'm parking my car, was daydreaming about the me that I could see that I believed to be in my future. But all I could say to myself every day was, "How the flip am I going to get there? This seems so damn impossible." And what's real for me, is that not only was it impossible, but I just got more and more frustrated the more I looked at how other people were living their lives.I had old friends from high school, or I had people who I saw and I'm looking at their life and I'm looking at my life and I'd be like, shit. This is so frustrating because I just feel like I'm alone. And if that's you, I want you to know that not only are you not crazy but that there's a way out and you're the key in the answer. But I want you to understand that it's going to be a matter of you putting some things in place, being clear on your truths, and making a simple game plan just to get to the very first level of alleviating pressure.2. Alleviating The PressureThe number one goal is to alleviate pressure, understand where the brunt of pressure is coming from. And then once you identify, then you can go, okay, great. If I alleviate this pressure, X happens and then it will free me up to do Y. That is the key. Once I started assessing what was creating the pressure for me the whole game changed. If you want to play the bigger game, you have to drop the weight that’s holding you down.3. It’s Not Always Going To Workout – BUT That’s Okay.It doesn't always work out the way we think it's going to work out. It doesn't always happen like that. That's just not the way this thing goes. And the sooner that we're willing to understand that and own that fact, the easier life becomes because we don't set ourselves up. Because we have to know the process.4. Understanding The Time You HaveNext lesson, I had to look at my time and go, okay, great. Where is my number one time? What's not getting done? What makes me feel heavy? I felt like I had to get out of the feeling of being a failure as a mom. I felt like I sucked city because not only was dad gone and I had no answer for that, but the house was a wreck. Now I could go and clean my house and spend six hours. I don't have the time for that. I can't do that. But guess what I did? Instead of doing that, I was like, well, how much does it cost me to hire a maid? That was step number one. And I found a maid, I started asking around instead of going online or in the yellow book, I started asking around to people I know.I know there are things that you do that take a ton of time. Getting rid of the things that mentally take you or that make you feel inadequate is step number one. When you alleviate the time, you have more time to focus on the things that make you money.