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How to Get Over A Breakup! “You Broke Up With Each Other Because You Two Weren’t A Perfect Match.”- Colette Gallagher (07:39-07:44) Breakups are painful. They usually require a lot of work, healing, and support in order to move forward. Learn how to get over a breakup! In this episode, Colette Gallagher shares valuable tips on how you can get over a breakup in a healthy way. Part One of ‘How to Get Over A Breakup! Tips For Moving On Fast’ Breakups are one of the painful moments people normally go through in life. It causes a lot of heartbreak, feelings of regret and it causes you to think that maybe you didn’t work hard enough in the relationship. For those who have already moved on, they probably start to perceive it as a fresh start but for those who haven’t, they need more time and that’s okay if you’re still in the healing process. “Dealing with a breakup means reflecting on things you could have done differently.” - Colette Gallagher (03:16-03:25) The first essential step after a breakup is to take responsibility for your part even if they’re the ones who broke up with you. The most common thing people usually do after a breakup is to blame their ex-partners which aren’t healthy and this scenario causes more bitterness. Take some time to just reflect on the relationship itself and everything that happened. Once you realize your own faults, don’t beat yourself up. This part of the process should be more of a reflection exercise and to be able to contemplate on what you can do differently in the future when the right person comes. Think about the needs this relationship was fulfilling in your life. Every relationship is based on two people having needs and getting their needs met. Maybe you had a need to take care of your partner or you had a need to feel appreciated. In return, your partner probably fulfills that need of making you feel appreciated when you’re around them. Make a list of all of the ways that your ex fulfills those needs for you and see if you can get those needs fulfilled in your own way. That’s going to make the heartbreak go away quickly because you’re not going to be thinking that nobody loves you or appreciates you anymore. Instead, you find other ways to get your needs met like volunteering for an important cause where your desire to feel appreciated will be placed in a much more useful way. Think about how great the relationship was and this somehow goes back to taking responsibility for why you broke up. Write out the problems you had together with an open mind and try not to judge it. You can go back and reflect on those small things that you didn’t consider as red flags in the beginning until it came to the point of having to end the relationship. A lot of times we lie to ourselves and convince ourselves that those small things aren’t going to be a big deal one day. Remember that if someone just stopped talking to you or suddenly disappeared out of nowhere, that shows their lack of maturity to be able to handle the conflict. It’s important to find a partner who respects you enough to tell you face to face what’s the real problem that needs to be discussed and resolved. How to Get Involved Colette, a confident dating coach, understands what it's like to live with anxiety, depression, heartbreak, PTSD, ADD, and other life challenges. She released all these things naturally, with no medication, using different tools and techniques she learned to heal herself. If you are dealing with a bad breakup and are looking for support, contact Colette. https://www.colettegallagher.com/book-online