Education
Highlights of the show include: ● Definition of Hijackals: People who hijack relationships for their own purposes, and then relentlessly scavenge those relationships for power, status, and control ● Toxic people display specific patterns, traits, and cycles; as children, they learned what to do to survive and usually don’t choose to behave this way ● Different Dynamics: Most people are toxic at home, where they want to control someone ● Other people’s fears, concerns, and expectations put on you, make you doubt yourself ● How to identify hijackals: ○ No matter the topic, the other person has to be right or win the conversation ○ Black-or-White Thinking: Hijackals don’t have love to give you, they only have uses for you ○ Everything is your fault, over blaming by the hijackal ○ You try to please hijackal to gain their love; hijackals have little to no empathy ● Psychological diagnosis doesn’t matter; if they behave like a hijackal, then they are one ● Step out of situations and comfortable being uncomfortable, despite possible alienation ● Hijackal Parents: Foster care may have been better; it’s not you, but them ● Life After Hijackals: Compassion, grief, transform, and take care of yourself Links and Resources: Dr. Rhoberta Shaler Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders, 5th Edition: DSM-5 Dr. Michelle Rozen Quotes by Dr. Rhoberta Shaler: “Google is an index, not a psychological professional.” “All hijackals drink from the same pool of traits.” “Most people are toxic at home, where they really like to have power and control.” “Hijackals often paint a public picture of perfection, while at home creating a private place of pain.”