Talking About Race and Other Taboo Topics

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In today’s episode, Anna interviews Alonzo Kelly, a long time mentor of hers that has anyone he talks to thinking deeply about his thought provoking questions. Talking about Race and Other Taboo Topics is the perfect episode to listen to during this time.    Anna and Alonzo discuss: How to prepare for talking about race in the workplace How to create the change The power of "being a witness" How to create a safe place to talk about and understand different cultures       We appreciate you listening and invite you to subscribe, like and share it with whomever may want to be high performing and own their career.   Apply for Anna’s Own Your Career Accelerator: A 4-month program with 1:1 coaching, tools, and resources, and your secret weapon for deepening your impact. You'll leave with increased knowledge of how and when you can increase your impact through a career plan, time management plan, and project plan to present your current organization an idea that could add value to the business or its people.   Links to the Freebies Mentioned: https://bhpt.mykajabi.com/anxietyatwork https://bhpt.mykajabi.com/tedx-freebie-landing   If you or your organization are looking for a thought leader and strategic partner to address organization/team/employee performance, managing change, or people/culture strategy, please contact us at team@buildhighperformingteams.com. “I've been using the anatomy of a tsunami [to explain what happened during the BLM movement]. So, out in the ocean, we've got these two things under incredible pressure, pressing up against each other, and then inevitably, something breaks and you have this ripple. And this ripple goes unchecked. So what was a 3 foot wave turns into 30, 30 turns into 300, and then it hits landfall. And at that point, there's really absolutely nothing you can do about it. So everything is about service recovery. So I feel like in the last month, this tsunami hit landfall. And it becomes impossible to not talk about all those things you prefer we not talk about at work, because we're in service recovery. We’re all in survival mode.” At minute 4:00, Alonzo shares how he visualizes the BLM movement. His analogy paints a picture in your mind that makes it easy to understand what happened, and why.    “If I'm looking out and I see a flock of white sheep, all white, 100 of them, and one of them is black, for me to pretend like I don't see that denies that sheep. For everybody to pretend like they don't see that denies their experience with the world around them. 100 people walk by. I won't remember any of them, but the black one. So I don't know why we got to pretend like I don't see it. And so a lot of we don't we don't talk about race here. Well, then you've denied me. And it's really just that simple for me. It doesn't even have to be some of this stuff they think is uncomfortable. I just asked that you see me, I'll go back to the sheep. I'm a sheep. I'd like to be treated like sheep. And I need you to acknowledge that my experience as a sheep is different. And I have no idea why that turned into something taboo. I have no idea.” At 12:20, Alonzo emphasizes the importance of being able to talk about race, understand different experiences that different races go through, and make change. He wants people to understand and DO something about it. If we deny the conversation, we deny the humanity. “I don't know how I would feel if I had a party and a bunch of people came to my party and didn't know my name. And here's what I mean by that; Martin is not his name. Harriet Tubman is not her name. Frederick Douglass is not his name. I could go on and on and on and on. So how about you honor these people by, at a minimum, learning what their real name is? How about that's my contribution. You can have the party, but at least know the name on the invitation.” At minute 36:20, Alonzo highlights the importance of understanding the past and knowing the truth behind Black History, in order to make the present better.  Alonzo shared a lot of valuable information about how to address and be prepared to talk about taboo topics. He also gave a lot of helpful tips and insights for all of us, so make sure you stay tuned! Don’t forget to connect and follow Alonzo through his website https://www.alonzokelly.com/, Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, and on LinkedIn. Check out her Youtube Channel!  I hope you liked today’s episode. Please don’t forget to subscribe on all podcast platforms and while you’re there, please don’t forget to rate and review! I truly appreciate and love you, and can’t wait to see you in the next episode! Check out Anxiety at Work: A Guide for COVID-19 and Beyond Download Virtual Teams During COVID-19: Mindsets + Values for High Performance Freebie Watch my TEDx Talk on Leveraging Your Now to Get Your Best Next P.S. Please don’t forget to tag me on Instagram @theannaoakes and connect on LinkedIn to share your big takeaways and for more Build High Performing Teams updates. I’ll see you there!  Peace & Progress, Anna