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Marriages start at the same place:  two people in love, ready to face the world together.  And most believe they have already beaten the odds.  Their love is “the real thing,” enduring and lasting.  It won’t fall apart like those other marriages.  They have already won. Except they haven’t. Some marriages keep on moving forward, resolute and solid, loving and supportive.  But many hit an inflection point. They go from happy to hurting. And many times, they can’t find their way back… mostly because they don’t know what the difference was; what made the difference between happy and hurting. Interestingly, most people name differences that don’t make a difference between happy and hurting.  What they assume makes a difference, doesn’t. Instead, there are 4 differences that do matter.  And here is what is important:  they can be changed.  Once you understand the 4 differences between a hurting and happy marriage, you can shift toward happy.  They are learnable skills, once identified. Listen below for the 4 differences that don’t matter and the 4 differences that do.  They make the difference between happy and hurting. RELATED RESOURCES: The Power of Commitment The Importance of Connection What About Communication? The Save The Marriage System