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Summary & Transcription In today's episode, we're going be talking about: The myth of willpower. We're also going to go over the concept of the riverbed. Then I'll give you a brief introduction to what I call the VBAR Method. In future episodes, we're gonna break this down in more detail, but for right now I just want to give you kind of a high level review. Of course, we'll end like we will with every episode, with a micro-action that I'll ask you to take today. So, I'm actually gonna start with the concept of the riverbed. If you listened to the last episode you remember when I talked about how our thoughts, our emotions, our actions are like the water of a river and how our underlying core beliefs and our programming and all these things are the riverbed. And so, the concept ... I like to use analogies like this 'cause I think it provides a little more concreteness for people in understanding how important their beliefs are to their everyday life. If you look at where you are currently in your life, it's because of all of the core beliefs that you have now, that you've had throughout your life and that you currently have that have led you to this point. I want you to think of looking down over a landscape and kind of seeing this winding riverbed that's flowing through the land, and as you're looking at it start to imagine and think about how our everyday thoughts, our emotions, our actions flow ... comes to the path of least resistance, right? So, just like water does, our thoughts, our emotions, our actions tend to follow these patterns that we've developed, and that's where the riverbed comes in because it's basically these patterns that you've created since you were a small child, whether it be things that other people told you about yourself or it be things that you started believing about yourself, about the world, about others. All of these beliefs came to form who you are today. Now, many of these beliefs are so far under the surface we don't even know that we have these beliefs, but they'll come out in the language that we use sometimes, and you'll start to notice them more, that you have these limiting beliefs that you never knew you had. Once you start to really analyze your beliefs you'll start to see that you do have limiting beliefs. Everyone has limiting beliefs, even some of the best people out there that you think are positive every single day and are super successful. They have limiting beliefs as well. So, it's okay to have limiting beliefs. It's okay to be where you're at in your life at this time. But what I want you to do is understand how these beliefs guide your life. And so, if you want to be living a certain type of life, whether that be just ... you want to be just happy, right? You want to live every day happy, or whether you want to have an impact on the people that you come into contact with, or an impact on the world, or whether you want to do better in your work or whether you want to start your own business. Whatever it is, you have the ability to do it. It's just a matter of looking at ... in that topographical map, right? If we're looking down on it and you say, "Hey. You know what? This is where my river is leading me, and this is where I'll end up if I continue with the same belief set that I have." But if you say, "You know what? This is really where I want to be, over here," you have to look at what are the beliefs that I would need, what are the beliefs that someone who would be successful in reaching that state or reaching that goal -- whatever it may be that you're trying to achieve -- what are the beliefs that they would hold, right, because that's what ultimately is gonna lead you to get to that point. Now, changing habits, changing patterns is not easy at all. It's definitely ... It's simple. It's actually really simple, but it's not easy. That's why ... I'll come back to this, but I want to talk about the myth of willpower for a second. So,