In the CumQueens' first interview, we talk with Donna Freitas as she shares her experience of being stalked by a trusted mentor while she was in grad school. We learn about her non-disclosure agreement and why she decided to write her book in spite of it. We discuss accountability and power dynamics in relationships and the ways in which consent plays a part in all facets of our lives. We explore how shame and self-blame plays a part in almost every survivor's story. We talk about how the memoir happened to coincide with the #MeToo Movement and discuss the recent sentencing Harvey Weinstein. Donna discusses how the responses to her book have given her a sense of healing and closure that she did not get from her university or abuser. We want to thank Donna Freitas again for speaking with us and sharing her story. This is the first part of our interview so be sure to come back next week to hear the rest! You can learn about Donna and her other titles at https://www.donnafreitas.com/ Consent: A Memoir of Unwanted Attention is available on Audible (https://www.audible.com/pd/Consent-Audiobook/154914328X?qid=1585190368&sr=1-9&ref=a_search_c3_lProduct_1_9&pf_rd_p=e81b7c27-6880-467a-b5a7-13cef5d729fe&pf_rd_r=2Z2T0FC1AMPEAT229PRV) and Amazon (https://www.amazon.com/Consent-Unwanted-Attention-Donna-Freitas-ebook/dp/B07L2W43Q2/ref=sr_1_fkmr1_1?keywords=Consent%3A+a+memoir+of+unwanted+attention&qid=1585190506&s=musical-instruments&sr=8-1-fkmr1) Donna Freitas is a professor, researcher, and writer of more than twenty books, both fiction and nonfiction, for adults, children, and young adults. Among her books are, most recently, Consent: A Memoir of Unwanted Attention (Little, Brown), as well as her Middle Grade nonfiction, The Big Questions Book of Sex & Consent (forthcoming in September 2020). Her debut novel for adults, The Nine Lives of Rose Napolitano, will be published in the spring of 2021 in nearly 25 countries and languages. Donna has spoken at over two hundred colleges and universities across the U.S. and beyond about her work around sex on campus, and she is the author of Consent on Campus: A Manifesto, as well as The Happiness Effect: How Social Media is Driving a Generation to Appear Perfect at Any Cost. Donna's essays, op-eds, and articles have been published in major newspapers and magazines over the years, including The New York Times, The Washington Post, The Boston Globe, and many others. She received her Ph.D. in Gender Studies and Religion in 2001. Donna is currently a professor in the English Department and MFA program at Adelphi University on Long Island. She lives in Brooklyn. Join the conversation in our Facebook Group (https://www.facebook.com/groups/448726195833923/) Follow us on Instagram (https://www.instagram.com/cumqueenspodcast/), Facebook (https://www.facebook.com/CumQueensPodcast), and Twitter (https://twitter.com/CumQueensPod) Please rate us 5 stars and leave a review on Apple Podcasts (https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/cumqueens/id1485509989). Share with your friends to help us grow! Send us a screenshot of your review along with your address for your FREE CumQueens Sticker!!

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Episode 22: Unwanted Attention: An Interview With Donna Freitas

The CumQueens cum up with ideas on how to keep the love alive in the time of Corona. How do we harness our inner sexiness and stay sane during all this? Fantastic advice from Plague Doctor role play to supplementing your income with Sugar Daddies. Porn industry, ahead of the curve https://nypost.com/2020/03/16/porn-industry-may-halt-shoots-over-coronavirus-crisis/?fbclid=IwAR3sqf3-iTfmaPn7PZYFL5tB-42e5jjhKqRqamnGAZo3X0xrCk6YXCF5GaE https://www.thedailybeast.com/porn-in-the-time-of-coronavirus-the-sex-must-go-on?fbclid=IwAR0UKbe9PTYR-xa-za0f4s4A7UBpg-teMZyqsCDRTot-29WKbbBQQjeQd2k Corona Curve https://www.washingtonpost.com/graphics/2020/world/corona-simulator/?fbclid=IwAR2jvhY62C1O4QMZFn9V4hdcBwKQq1g1qnyXlROkM8O0RloLUxtZLNMwXqg Sexy Education Videos and Porn with a Feminine Perspective https://erikalust.com/ Let us know what your doing while your self-quarantined. Are you utilizing dating apps to stay connected or considering Cam life while out of work? Join the conversation in our Facebook Group (https://www.facebook.com/groups/448726195833923/) Follow us on Instagram (https://www.instagram.com/cumqueenspodcast/), Facebook (https://www.facebook.com/CumQueensPodcast), and Twitter (https://twitter.com/CumQueensPod) Please rate us 5 stars and leave a review on Apple Podcasts (https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/cumqueens/id1485509989). Share with your friends to help us grow! Send us a screenshot of your review along with your address for your FREE CumQueens Sticker!!

Episode 21: How to Stay Sexy Through Corona

In this episode, Charlotte and Grace talk about digital products targeted towards womens health. Products that fall under the Femtech umbrella range from fertility trackers to vibrators. They share some exciting new start-ups that can lead to a more equitable healthcare system when it comes to "lady problems." Is Femtech the golden girl of the free market? Here are some links to the products and articles we discuss in the episode: Fertility Tracker https://www.avawomen.com/ Mentrualome Tracker https://www.nextgenjane.com/database Pelvic Floor Trainer https://www.elvie.com/en-us/shop/elvie-trainer Bluetooth Vibrator https://www.nextgenjane.com/database Period Tracker https://helloclue.com/ CBD Tamps https://yourdaye.com/ Femtech a Billion Dollar Industry https://www.forbes.com/sites/reenitadas/2018/04/12/womens-healthcare-comes-out-of-the-shadows-femtech-shows-the-way-to-billion-dollar-opportunities/#69f8cf536159 https://www.tech-talks.co.uk/articles/femtech-is-more-than-organic-tampons-and-smart-vibrators-period Let us know what you think! Do you have any Femtech products you are currently using or hope to try out? Are you sitting on the next big idea for womens health? Hit us up, we would love to start a new feminist version of Shark Tank. Join the conversation in our Facebook Group (https://www.facebook.com/groups/448726195833923/) Follow us on Instagram (https://www.instagram.com/cumqueenspodcast/), Facebook (https://www.facebook.com/CumQueensPodcast), and Twitter (https://twitter.com/CumQueensPod) Please rate us 5 stars and leave a review on Apple Podcasts (https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/cumqueens/id1485509989). Share with your friends to help us grow! Send us a screenshot of your review along with your address for your FREE CumQueens Sticker!!

Episode 20: Femtech

In this episode, Charlotte and Grace find out all there is to know about their nipples and areaolas. They find out why males have nipples too, how nipples get hard and what it really means, and how we can achieve nipple orgasms beyond our wildest dreams. The sound gets kinda fucked midway through the episode due to technical difficulties but the content is well worth it. Tell us your nipple stories! Do you have a male partner who is into nipple play? Do you have any hot sex toys you can recommend for maximum nipple pleasure? Share your stories with us! Join in on the conversation in our Facebook Group (https://www.facebook.com/groups/448726195833923/) Follow us on Instagram (https://www.instagram.com/cumqueenspodcast/), Facebook (https://www.facebook.com/CumQueensPodcast), and Twitter (https://twitter.com/CumQueensPod) Please rate us 5 stars and leave a review on Apple Podcasts (https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/cumqueens/id1485509989). Share with your friends to help us grow! Send us a screenshot of your review along with your address for your FREE CumQueens Sticker!!

Episode 19: Nipples Tho

On this week's episode, the CumQueens look at the Pink Tax and the ways in which gender-based marketing and capitalism collide to hit women where it hurts: in our wallets, pocketbooks and fanny packs. We learn all about how everyday items are marked up when they are directed towards women. We learn how this practice has started from birth and how we can fight back. We also examine the real state sales taxes that unfairly charge women for the products they need to get through their menstrual cycles. We trace the history of the color pink being associated as being for girls and women. We talk about what women can do to be more conscious consumers and how we can impact our state laws to create menstrual equality. Check out this awesome organization that is helping us fight back! (https://axthepinktax.com/) Watch the Ted Talk by Dr. Felicia Clark "Pink Tax and the BS in Beauty Standards" (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OsW6lwj20II&list=PLfHPmT3pP0htzwUFnnxGIVSTLuUkUCjFo&index=19&t=0s) See Ellen DeGeneres making fun of Bic's Lady Pens (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=eCyw3prIWhc) Learn about PinkWashing and Breast Cancer Awareness (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XFNUBKKPtSk&list=PLfHPmT3pP0htzwUFnnxGIVSTLuUkUCjFo&index=20&t=0s) Share your Pink Tax stories or snap a pic in a store the next time you see it in action! Join in on the conversation in our Facebook Group (https://www.facebook.com/groups/448726195833923/) Follow us on Instagram (https://www.instagram.com/cumqueenspodcast/), Facebook (https://www.facebook.com/CumQueensPodcast), and Twitter (https://twitter.com/CumQueensPod) Please rate us 5 stars and leave a review on Apple Podcasts (https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/cumqueens/id1485509989). Share with your friends to help us grow! Send us a screenshot of your review along with your address for your FREE CumQueens Sticker!!

Episode 18: Shrink It and Pink It

NOW- the National Organization for Women, has stirred up controversy through supporting policies that treat sex workers as victims instead of including them in the conversation and having them decide how they should be represented. In this episode, we learn about how laws around sex work disproportionately impact some groups and how the legal system has caused difficulty in maintaining health and safety for sex workers. We talk about New Zealand's decriminalization of sex work and the power and control that this gives to sex workers there. We talk about our current legal framework and how the move to decriminalize sex work (vs. legalization) can be a positive one. We address issues with the Nordic model, which has been touted by some feminist groups. We look at how sex workers have been excluded from the laws made surrounding them and how the bipartisan SESTA/FOSTA legisation has been harmful. We talk about the important difference between sex work and human trafficking and share how we can all be more supportive of sex work within our feminism. Listen to the Reply All epside of about the unintended consequences of SESTA/FOSTA (https://gimletmedia.com/shows/reply-all/o2ho97) Listen to an interview with a Sex Worker on Death, Sex and Money (https://www.wnycstudios.org/podcasts/deathsexmoney/episodes/sex-worker-next-door) Watch this short documentary about Sex Work in New Zealand (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Q8_UGthO3CM) If you want to support sex workers, you can check out the Sex Workers Outreach Project here (https://swopusa.org/) Other Reference Articles (https://www.dailydot.com/irl/feminists-sex-workers-rights/) (https://theintercept.com/2020/01/30/sex-workers-decriminalization-fosta-sesta/) (https://newrepublic.com/article/155481/liberal-feminism-sex-work-problem) Join in on the conversation in our Facebook Group (https://www.facebook.com/groups/448726195833923/) Follow us on Instagram (https://www.instagram.com/cumqueenspodcast/), Facebook (https://www.facebook.com/CumQueensPodcast), and Twitter (https://twitter.com/CumQueensPod) Please rate us 5 stars and leave a review on Apple Podcasts (https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/cumqueens/id1485509989). Share with your friends to help us grow! Send us a screenshot of your review along with your address for your FREE CumQueens Sticker!!

Episode 17: Sex Worker Inclusive Feminism: Rights Vs. Rescue

Racism and white supremacy are a huge part of our culture. The situation is no different within the women's movement, which has struggled with White Feminism, which is when white women choose to only pay attention to issues that impact them personally and supressing the voices of women of color. We look at the disparities between black women, women of color and white women in everything from wages to wealth to health outcomes. We talk about common tactics white women use and how we can change our behavior. We learn about ways we can uplift women who experience harm under our white supremacist culture and how we can stand up and start being anti-racist, because not being racist isn't enough. We take a hard a look at ourselves and how our show can be more inclusive and representative. We acknowlege that we still have a lot to learn and there is so much more on this topic that we intend to continue to include in our future episodes. Tamika Mallory on The Breakfast Club (see minute 4 for quote in episode) (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HO9Mwx4Eb6Q&t=281s) Scene On Radio's Season 1: Seeing White (https://www.sceneonradio.org/seeing-white/) Articles for References 10 Ways to Pay Reparations if You're a Broke Ass White Person by DiDi Delgado (https://medium.com/@thedididelgado/10-ways-to-pay-reparations-if-youre-a-broke-ass-white-person-c75d48ebc8aa) Unpacking the Invisible Knapsack by Peggy McIntosh (https://www.racialequitytools.org/resourcefiles/mcintosh.pdf) When Feminism is White Supremacy in Heels by Rachel Cargle (https://www.harpersbazaar.com/culture/politics/a22717725/what-is-toxic-white-feminism/) How White Feminists Oppress Black Women: When Feminism Functions as White Supremacy by Monnika T. Williams (https://chacruna.net/how-white-feminists-oppress-black-women-when-feminism-functions-as-white-supremacy/?fbclid=IwAR1Qixr_muT9_Yhr3sCmPkPdXaZgZ2duuFcqW_KxnNichq5qJdOzfhMjuIE) Join in on the conversation in our Facebook Group (https://www.facebook.com/groups/448726195833923/) Follow us on Instagram (https://www.instagram.com/cumqueenspodcast/), Facebook (https://www.facebook.com/CumQueensPodcast), and Twitter (https://twitter.com/CumQueensPod) Please rate us 5 stars and leave a review on Apple Podcasts (https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/cumqueens/id1485509989). Share with your friends to help us grow! Send us a screenshot of your review along with your address for your FREE CumQueens Sticker!!

Episode 16: White Feminism

Sexting- everyone does it.....right!? Grace and Charlotte tell their own experiences of sexting and talk about how sexting has evolved over time. They discuss remember the days of Anthony Weiner and talk about the latest scandal with Jeff Bezos, which is actually weirdly linked to the orange dude in the White House. This episode includes many hilarious tales of trying to navigate the sextual universe! Do you sext? Share your stories with us. If you haven't, we'd love to hear about why! Join in on the conversation in our Facebook Group (https://www.facebook.com/groups/448726195833923/) Follow us on Instagram (https://www.instagram.com/cumqueenspodcast/), Facebook (https://www.facebook.com/CumQueensPodcast), and Twitter (https://twitter.com/CumQueensPod) Please rate us 5 stars and leave a review on Apple Podcasts (https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/cumqueens/id1485509989). Share with your friends to help us grow! Send us a screenshot of your review along with your address for your FREE CumQueens Sticker!!

Episode 15: Sexting

Lube comes in many forms. Our bodies produce it naturally and you can buy a variety at the store or use household items. We learn all about how our bodies make lubrication, what can affect lubrication levels, and how we can use synthetic lube in the bedroom for decreased pain and increased pleasure. Grace and Charlotte tell their personal stories about using lube and the beliefs that stopped them from trying it sooner. They talk about cultural messaging around women and wetness and the stigma that lack of natural lubrication is a sign of sexual disfunction (which it certainly IS NOT). They break down the types of lubes available and the best ways to use them as well as how to incorporate household items as lube safely. Check out Women's Voices for the Earth Factsheet on Lube here (https://www.womensvoices.org/wp-content/uploads/2017/02/lubricants_factsheet_final.pdf) Check out what lubes have been studied by the World Health Organization here (http://www.womensvoices.org/osmolality-ph-properties-commercial-lubricants/) Check out the clip from Superbad that feeds into the lube stigma here (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=duusT2fvxuE)

Episode 14: LubeLife

How much would you pay for a candle that smells like Gwyneth Paltrow's pussy? Charlotte and Grace talk about the latest product from Goop that Paltrow claims is vagina-scented. Elizabeth Warren says opponent Michael Bloomberg should release women from the many non-disclosure agreements he's had them sign over the years in association with claims of sexual harassment, misconduct and discrimination at his company Bloomberg, Inc. Women are using suprising spices inside their vaginas with dangerous consequences. Charlotte and Grace dive deep into these topics and try to make sense of it all! Check out Paltrow's Candle (https://shop.goop.com/shop/products/this-smells-like-my-vagina-candle?country=USA) Read more on Bloomberg's sexist history here (https://www.theatlantic.com/entertainment/archive/2018/09/mike-bloomberg-comments-women-metoo/570448/) Join in on the conversation in our Facebook Group (https://www.facebook.com/groups/448726195833923/) Follow us on Instagram (https://www.instagram.com/cumqueenspodcast/), Facebook (https://www.facebook.com/CumQueensPodcast), and Twitter (https://twitter.com/CumQueensPod) Please rate us 5 stars and leave a review on Apple Podcasts (https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/cumqueens/id1485509989). Share with your friends to help us grow! Send us a screenshot of your review along with your address for your FREE CumQueens Sticker!!

Episode 13: Spicy Vaginas, Paltrow's Pussy Candle, and Bloomberg's Sexist Secrets

Hair- we literally have it everywhere! But how has society influenced hairstyles, both on the body and on our heads. We learn about how World War II and capitalism influenced the pressures for hairlessness. We talk about how having short or long head hair makes a statement about our identities. We look at ourselves and our grooming habits and evaluate the role patriarchial systems may have played in our choices. Share your hair journeys with us! Join in on the conversation in our Facebook Group (https://www.facebook.com/groups/448726195833923/) Follow us on Instagram (https://www.instagram.com/cumqueenspodcast/), Facebook (https://www.facebook.com/CumQueensPodcast), and Twitter (https://twitter.com/CumQueensPod) Please rate us 5 stars and leave a review on Apple Podcasts (https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/cumqueens/id1485509989). Share with your friends to help us grow! Send us a screenshot of your review along with your address for your FREE CumQueens Sticker!! Watch the commercial for Billie Razors "Red, White and You Do You" campaign that we reference in the episode here: (https://youtu.be/XYsacX9LwSw) See the first ad for Gillette's women's razor and other hair removal marketing in this article: (https://www.bustle.com/articles/196747-the-sneaky-manipulative-history-of-why-women-started-shaving)

Episode 12: Hair, Hair, Everywhere!

When it comes to work in the home, women are still shouldering the burden. As women make more money and spend more time at paid jobs, they continue to take on the "second shift," coming home to laundry, dishes, and dirty floors. Charlotte and Grace get personal and share how they have (and have not) managed household chores in their homes and the impact that it has had on their current and past relationships. They look at the notion of "performing gender" and the pressures on women to keep a clean house. They explore how gender equity in the home can benefit the sex lives of both men and women. How do you manage the labor in your household? Share your stories with us! We'd love to hear if you've found a great balance that works for you or about your struggles to gain equity when it comes to housework. Join in on the conversation in our Facebook Group (https://www.facebook.com/groups/448726195833923/) Follow us on Instagram (https://www.instagram.com/cumqueenspodcast/), Facebook (https://www.facebook.com/CumQueensPodcast), and Twitter (https://twitter.com/CumQueensPod) Please rate us 5 stars and leave a review on Apple Podcasts (https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/cumqueens/id1485509989). Share with your friends to help us grow!

Episode 11: “Women's Work” and the Domestic Divide

Our bodies and even our brains our influenced by the sex hormones that we have. Grace and Charlotte look at what sex hormones do in our bodies. They talk about their own cycles and try to learn more about how they work. They discuss stereotypes based on hormones and confront the idea that only women are "hormonal." They learn about the way estrogren, progesterone and testosterone influence us. Please rate us 5 stars and leave a review on Apple Podcasts (https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/cumqueens/id1485509989). Share with your friends to help us grow! Join in on the conversation in our Facebook Group (https://www.facebook.com/groups/448726195833923/) Follow us on Instagram (https://www.instagram.com/cumqueenspodcast/), Facebook (https://www.facebook.com/CumQueensPodcast), and Twitter (https://twitter.com/CumQueensPod)

Episode 10: Sex Hormones

Charlotte and Grace talk about the sexual revolution of the 60s and 70s. From the impact of introduction of The Pill, to bra-burning, the intro of porn into pop culture and changes to sexual norms of the time, they trace the steps of this influential period and how it impacts us today. Read "The Myth of the Vaginal Orgasm" (https://wgs10016.commons.gc.cuny.edu/the-myth-of-the-vaginal-orgasm-by-anne-koedt-1970/) by Anne Koedt Photo of braless protester referenced in episode https://img.buzzfeed.com/buzzfeed-static/static/2018-06/13/14/asset/buzzfeed-prod-web-05/sub-buzz-11546-1528915345-2.jpg?downsize=1600:*&output-format=auto&output-quality=auto Please rate us 5 stars and leave a review on Apple Podcasts (https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/cumqueens/id1485509989). Share with your friends to help us grow! Join in on the conversation in our Facebook Group (https://www.facebook.com/groups/448726195833923/) Follow us on Instagram (https://www.instagram.com/cumqueenspodcast/), Facebook (https://www.facebook.com/CumQueensPodcast), and Twitter (https://twitter.com/CumQueensPod)

Episode 9: The Sexual Revolution

What exactly are "daddy issues" and why do people say women have them? Charlotte and Grace talk about the sexism of this term. They then delve into what they say as the real daddy issue: that dads somehow have ownership over their daughter's bodies and relationship choices. They revisit T.I. and his explanation of his comments on a recent episode of Red Table Talk and use this as a jumping off point for control of women's bodies under the guise of "protection." They talk about experiences with their own dads as well as how child-parent relationships relate to attachment theory. They talk about how dads can embrace feminist fatherhood and help raise strong, resilient daughters. Watch T.I. on Red Table Talk: https://www.facebook.com/redtabletalk/videos/1803664559768440/ Learn More about Attached: The New Science of Adult Attachment and How it Can Help You Keep and Find Love: https://www.attachedthebook.com/wordpress/about-the-book/ See the Feminist Father Shirt https://www.redbookmag.com/life/mom-kids/news/a18063/feminist-father-shirt/ Thanks for listening! As always, we love to hear your personal stories and feedback. Please rate us 5 stars and leave a review on Apple Podcasts (https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/cumqueens/id1485509989). Share with your friends to help us grow! Join in on the conversation in our Facebook Group (https://www.facebook.com/groups/448726195833923/) Follow us on Instagram (https://www.instagram.com/cumqueenspodcast/), Facebook (https://www.facebook.com/CumQueensPodcast), and Twitter (https://twitter.com/CumQueensPod)

Episode 8: Daddy Issues

Charlotte and Grace are two friends who want to expand the conversation around female sexuality and pleasure by talking openly about their own sex lives and experiences as women. Cum on this journey with us as we relearn everything about our bodies and ourselves!

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