This week we’re sharing advice on:    Boyfriend texting his ex Friend accusing you of cheating How to get over your ex Dealing with a boyfriend’s girl best friend Don’t Blame Them: Boredom in quarantine   If you want to read the call transcriptions, see the bottom of these notes!   Follow Us! @meghanrienks www.instagram.com/meghanrienks  @sheisnotmelissa www.instagram.com/sheisnotmelissa @dontblamemepod  https://www.instagram.com/dontblamemepod/     Listen to ad-free on Stitcher Premium! For a free month of Stitcher Premium, go to stitcherpremium.com and use promo code 'BLAME,’ PLUS exclusive bonus episodes.     Affordable Therapy By State (Curated by Crissy Milazzo): www.tinyurl.com/y64kwdnf    Need Advice?  www.dontblameme.show  Domestic Listeners Call: (310) 694-0976   International Listeners Send a Voice Memo To: meghanpodcast@gmail.com    … with as much detail as possible under 3 minutes! I’ll do my best to share my wonderful words of wisdom. If you’re under 18, please get your parent’s permission. Advice is for entertainment purposes only, so you can’t blame me if I screw up your life. I kid! My advice IS AMAZING. - Want to WATCH this episode as well? Check out the YouTube channel:  https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC9SMwL3ZgCUsD-yIDU_Zsqg/   Call 1: Hi Meghan and guest, so my boyfriend and I have been together for about five months, but I'm having a problem with his ex. They broke up four years ago and they are still in constant communication like they probably talk every week or so. In the beginning he would get really emotional about her and kind of talk about like how much she hurt him because she actually cheated on him and that's why they ended things. So eventually after like him talking about it for such a long time, I told him that he had to stop talking about her to me because it hurt me and it just like makes me feel uncomfortable and he was like, "yeah, that's fine whatever," but it's still just like bothering me that he talks to her so much. He says that they just send each other memes and that it's nothing serious, but it feels really disrespectful. I've talked to him many times about how uncomfortable it makes me and cried about it actually and I just haven't asked him to stop talking to her completely cause I don't want to be that girlfriend, but I definitely hinted at him maybe possibly doing that. But he just like take that hint. His ex actually lives across the country, so I'm not really worried about him cheating, but I have doubts that he's ever going to like really get over her even if he says that he's over it. I love him and I can see a future with him, but it sucks. So any advice would help, is this a dealbreaker? Should I ask him to cut her off completely? I'm not really sure but any advice would help. Thanks guys.   Call 2: Hi guys, first off just saying I'm a huge fan, listen to the podcast all the time. Also, I didn't prepare, write anything down, or like go through this in my head. So sorry in advance. And also, I'm an Aries and I'm twenty-two. So anyway, I had this really good friend and I was being a good friend to her. We were hanging out all the time. She started getting toxic in my life. So I dropped her, didn't really say much, just like told her I didn't want to hang out, just like that like blew off plans, didn't reply, just tried to give like a subtle hint and then I found out that she had admitted to being in love with my husband. So I maturely texted her and said "I don't want to be friends with you anymore. It just, I'm not getting anything out of the friendship anymore." And then I just blocked her. Well, one of my friends randomly added her on Snapchat and Facebook and she goes on to tell my friend that I've cheated on my husband and slept with one of his best friends and that I'm a horrible person, that I talked all this crap about everybody, which is why we're not friends and the reason we're not friends because I randomly blocked her on everything and then she went on, within the same hour, to add my husband on Snapchat. So I was there I said, "please please add her, I want to see what she has to say." And he said "I don't want to like add fuel to the fire, I just don't want to entertain this" and I said, "I just want to see what she has to say." So he added her off and she told him the same stories that I had slept with one of his friends, but she named him and he told her "I don't care who my wife sleeps with, leave me alone" and then blocked her. I don't believe that she believes that was him. She probably thinks that that was me. But all my friends are telling me I need to go beat her ass or confront her. My mother-in-law is telling me I need to confront her and I'm just at the place where I don't think I need to because I'm going to just be giving her what she wants but I wanted an unbiased opinion on if you think I should confront her and what I should say, because it didn't really piss me off the fact that she said I cheated or anything. It was just the fact that she said I was a bad person and a bad friend because I was the complete opposite to the friendship and ended the friendship very maturely and yeah, so anyways unbiased opinion on what you think I should do or if I should stay the bigger person. All right. Thanks guys bye.   Call 3: Hi Meghan and Melisa, I'm a twenty-year-old Virgo and I have a current situation that I could use some insight on, please don't judge me though. I'm a little sensitive. About a year ago, a year and half ago, me and my ex broke up but we continued a friendship like a few months after the break-up, but our friendship obviously turned into us hooking up 98% of the time and we kind of just act like a couple after we have sex and then through this time I was pretty aware of my place as in that I'm his ex and I tried to not get too caught up with my emotions. We've both been aware of the fact that we both still have feelings for each other but never really talked about it and I ended up hoarding so many questions in my mind but a few days ago, he called me to tell me that he's been talking to somebody for a few weeks. I don't really understand why he told me if he's only been talking to them for a few weeks, but I guess he might take it more serious than I assume. I remained pretty calm during the conversation, but then I eventually asked him all the questions that I was hoarding onto such as if he saw us getting back together in the future, if he still had feelings for me. He said yes to both of those. There are other questions too, but they're just too much to explain. He didn't say it word for word, but it kind of felt like he was saving me for later or something like that. But now I'm at the point where I need to kind of force myself to get over him but having that conversation made it super confusing. I don't really understand why he would want to start a relationship but still have feelings for me. I have a tendency also to get pretty depressed for a while when something makes me upset and I could really use some advice on getting over him while also trying to keep my mental health stabilized. I don't have many friends and with COVID it's definitely harder to make friends. I also don't have a therapist but have been thinking about getting one for a while. It just makes me uncomfortable because my parents are pretty judgmental about like mental health issues. But anyway, thank you for listening if you do listen or take my call bye!   Call 4: Hi Meghan, Melisa and potential guest, I'm calling in today to talk about my boyfriend. So for context we've been together for about three years now. Love him to death, great. In the last year, so something that's bugged me a lot which is that, so he doesn't have any social media apps besides Snapchat. He's just like he's always told me like "I'm not that kinda person, like I just don't have anything to post, like I just don't really care that much," which I've always respected because you know, like you keep off of this bump and yeah, so anyways in the last year, I've noticed that there is this burner instagram account that watches my Instagram story. It followed me in the past and I tried to follow it back and it wouldn't let me. I know for a fact that it's him because the people that it follows are people who he went to high school with, who I went to high school with, who he knew from his old hometown, so I know it's him. And I have brought it up to him a couple of times now and kind of been like, okay, like I think this is you and he denied it. So I'm frustrated because I know it is him and I don't care about him having social media, the thing is like I wouldn't care if he had a normal Instagram account and just you know followed all these people on that. However, the fact that it's like a secret and then it's like just a burner account makes me uncomfortable. I - ever since I brought it up to him, the last time, he has stopped using it and so it doesn't watch my stories anymore. So I know it's him, however, it really bugs me that he won't admit to it, because I just, you know, obviously there's something he's hiding then. Anyways, I'm just frustrated and I love him and I don't wanna believe he's doing anything bad on these accounts, however I'm sure you both will be like thinking otherwise, but I just want to get to the bottom of this. It really bugs me and yet I don't want to keep bringing it up just to have him keep denying it. So any advice would be much appreciated. I love you guys a lot and yeah, right. Thanks. Bye.   Call 5: Hi Meghan and Melisa, I'm a twenty-seven-year-old Capricorn in my first relationship. We met last November and fell pretty quickly for each other before he got into grad school at the end of the year across the country. We weren't sure if we were going to do long distance but the quarantine brought us closer together and we decided we could make it work especially since I can now work remotely or at least the fall semester at his place. That's not why I'm calling but it's part of it. I'm calling because I recently asked him a question I'm learning most people avoid. He once told me his ex who he did long distance with in college was always jealous of his friends that were girls and it finally occurred to me that maybe it was because something happened with one of them. After worrying for months who it could be, I finally just asked him flat out and he said it was one of his close friends that he talks to all the time. This was crushing for me because I know they're very close. She helped him through his break up with his ex and his depression. They had sex a few times the summer he and his ex broke up in college. He never cheated on her when they were together, but his ex couldn't get past it. His friend has had a boyfriend now for the past three years and they're very serious and won't live anywhere near my boyfriend when he moves. I know I can't punish him for something that happened five years ago, but I now feel extremely uncomfortable because he's been pushing a friendship with this girl and her boyfriend since we met. I did like her before I knew all this stuff, but now I can't stop thinking about them together and how much more she probably knows about him than me at this point. I know I can't tell him not to talk to her again. But every time I learn he has I feel like throwing up and my mood changes, I definitely can't handle being near her anytime soon. I just feel lied to and insecure. My experience before him was very little and I didn't keep any of those people in my life. He knows all this and has limited his contact with her at least while he's around me, which makes me feel horrible. My question is how do I not think about them together every free second I have? It's been a month, and I thought time would help. It comes the most when he's not around so I'm more nervous than ever about long-distance. I love him, and I trust him, but I can't seem to get over it. Thinking about it all the time makes me miserable, but I'd be even more miserable that ended things with someone I love over something that happened before me. Maybe I just need more time, but I'd appreciate any advice you can give. Thanks.   Don’t Blame Them: Hi Meghan and Melisa, I am calling for Don't Blame Them for the episode from June 29th of this year. So I'm actually a therapist. Um, and I just have some thoughts on the girl who was calling about her girlfriend who drinks and smokes too much. So I really second everything you guys said, I thought that it was so on point, and I would you know echo that that's what that girl should do. I also wanted to add that it really perked my interest when the girlfriend said that she's bored and that's why she wants to use and I get it like it's quarantine and like there's nothing else to do and like everything just feels so bleak. So that's what that's how it goes back to your guys' advice of like sussing out what's going on, but I just wanted to throw out there that ADHD and substance abuse actually has a very strong correlation. For people who have ADHD, Meghan as you probably know, boredom can feel painful and it's not really talked about a lot but there is the strong correlation of people with ADHD using substances to cope with how painful boredom is and all the other things that come with ADHD. I also have ADHD so that’s definitely something that I've experienced and can speak to as well as speaking to on a professional level. So she definitely should talk to a professional obviously that professional could help her in that way like if that is the scenario, but I just wanted to throw that out there especially if other people are experiencing that like if you just feel like you don't know what to do with yourself and you're not trying to cope with anything, but boredom just feels like painful and you're wanting to take that feeling away. It's just something to think about that it's not talked about as much as it should be. Thanks guys. Support the show: https://www.patreon.com/join/dontblameme See omnystudio.com/policies/listener for privacy information.

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S6E16: Boyfriend Has A Burner Instagram w/ Melisa D. Monts

This week we’re sharing advice on:    Choosing a last name A friend changing Going through a abrupt break up Your stepdad dating after mom’s passing Update: stripper cheating on two men   If you want to read the call transcriptions, see the bottom of these notes!   Follow Us! @meghanrienks www.instagram.com/meghanrienks  @dontblamemepod  https://www.instagram.com/dontblamemepod/ @sheisnotmelissa www.instagram.com/sheisnotmelissa     Listen to ad-free on Stitcher Premium! For a free month of Stitcher Premium, go to stitcherpremium.com and use promo code 'BLAME,’ PLUS exclusive bonus episodes.     Affordable Therapy By State (Curated by Crissy Milazzo): www.tinyurl.com/y64kwdnf    Need Advice?  www.dontblameme.show  Domestic Listeners Call: (310) 694-0976   International Listeners Send a Voice Memo To: meghanpodcast@gmail.com    … with as much detail as possible under 3 minutes! I’ll do my best to share my wonderful words of wisdom. If you’re under 18, please get your parent’s permission. Advice is for entertainment purposes only, so you can’t blame me if I screw up your life. I kid! My advice IS AMAZING. - Want to WATCH this episode as well? Check out the YouTube channel:  https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC9SMwL3ZgCUsD-yIDU_Zsqg/   Call 1: Hi, Meghan and Melisa, I'm 23, my fiance's 24 and we've been together for four years. We just got engaged this month and one conversation would always come up for us, but especially now that we're engaged is what our last name is going to be when we get married. He likes his last name and I love it. It's how I met him, how I have always known him for the last four years. So it just seems simple that that will be our last name, but his mom wants him to change it because he has his dad's last name who's basically done nothing for him his entire life. This doesn't bother my fiance. He has a great relationship with his grandparents and his stepbrother on his dad's side. So that's his family too. But his mom thinks he should take her husband's name. So his stepdad, who came into his life when he was already like 12 and they have the most awkward non-relationship, but she thinks since she raised him and her husband has supported him financially and those are his other siblings last names. He should do this the irony is that his stepdad's family is even more problematic than his dad's family and I absolutely do not want to be associated with them. My thing is I feel like this is creating a problem that has never really been there because this has been his name for twenty-four years and it just has the potential to piss off way too many people I feel like for no reason. My fiance thinks it would be disrespectful to his grandparents and his brother on his dad's side, but his mom can't come to grips with her grandchildren potentially having the same last name as my fiance's dad. I really love his mom and we have a good relationship, but she's very emotionally invested in this topic, understandably, and I don't really know how to talk about it when it comes up cause she gets really heated about it, which I totally understand, especially because one of the main reasons I care is that I really don't like her husband and that's a totally different topic. I don't want to have his last name and I can't exactly tell her that. My fiance also loves his mom, and he has a hard time standing up to her, but he basically doesn't really care either way as long as he's not taking his step dad's last name, which is what his mom wants. I come from a very drama-free family so I'm not really sure how to act. I know that him taking my last name is an option, but my last name is really boring, and it's just not my favorite option and I do want to have the same last name as him. I just need advice on whether to just stop caring. How do I talk about it when she brings it up again? Any advice will help. Thanks. Bye.   Call 2: Dear Meghan and Melisa I hope you can understand me as English isn't my first language. I'm in my early thirties so naturally all my girlfriends have one, two, or three kids. I personally love kids but I don't want any for myself. Now my best friend has changed since she became a mom a few years ago which I guess is normal because my other friends have as well but hers is more extreme. She says she's finding herself, getting closer to her true self, and I've known her for 25 years and her finding herself is very far from the girl I know and love. This includes being a mom before anything else, she's considering anti-vaccining, sharing very stereotypical and cringey inspirational quotes with sunsets in the background on Facebook, and the newest addition is that institutions traumatize our children and to work around this, she has quit her job to stay with them full-time, which is also fine but her husband makes less than her so if this was truly for them I guess she would work and he would stay at home. I really suspect that this is about her more than the children. Her texts include very much me, I, myself, me me me. I've never commented on my friends' parenting even if I disagree with them because, well I'm not living their lives and I assume they make the right decisions and also the few times I have had an input I've been told that I won't know until I become a mom myself which I never will. So to this best friend, I've asked her how her husband is feeling cause she doesn't mention him in all of this. I would personally be upset if my partner one day announced that they quit their job to find themselves because it would also affect me. I would have to work harder, we would have to not go on holidays and so on. She replied, he has a hard time being the only provider, but I feel so relieved not working and I feel that I am getting closer to myself. So should I challenge her, what about her pension when she isn't working, she says they will have to take a huge loan, is he the only one who's going to pay off a shared loan? I used to help children who had eating disorders and a lot of them actually had their self-harming problems because they were all their parents had, they didn't care about their jobs, they didn't see their friends, they didn't have any hobbies, so they put all the responsibility of their happiness on their children. Is it a good friend move to confront her about these things, including that she might be pushing her husband away or is this me being selfish and missing the friend I used to have instead of accepting the choices she's making now? Can I put a friendship on hold? What do I do?    Call 3: Hi Meghan and Melisa, love the podcast so I'm 25, I'm an Aries and I need your guys's advice or words of wisdom whatever, because I got myself into a situation that is pretty annoying to me right now. So about a month ago I started dating or seeing (I don't know) one of my closest and oldest guy friends so we've known each other for about 20 years now and it's always been a little flirty, over the past couple months at least, and I know that when we were like 15 or so he had like a crush on me and asked me out but back then I just didn't understand or get it I don't know I was young and naive but so about a month ago I went camping with his family actually and the weekend after that we both got super drunk and then had sex and after that it kind of just rolled into this whole thing where we now basically see each other at like at least three times a week, I always sleep over at his house, we also hang out during the day, it's always super fun, we laugh a lot, I've met his friends that are like outside of our friend group, and apparently like the guys and even his girl best friend like me, like he told me that. Yeah it's just like overall a good time and it's pretty much like he would always text me like a good morning and good night texts and he told me that he really likes me and thinks I'm funny and all that and everything would turn into like kind of relationship if he was not in love with his coworker who is actually in a lesbian relationship though, and so she's been in this relationship for I think three years and she says that she's still in love with her girlfriend but she'll also like text my guy all the time and just like flirt with him and talk about all of these super personal intimate things and so now he's like or has been apparently for years for a couple years super in love with her and totally thinks that she's the girl for him even though she day by day chooses her girlfriend over him right, and so all of his actual friends and like his girl best friend like they all don't like her, we all think that she's just like not a nice person for playing both of them, like my guy and the girlfriend, but now I'm seeing him and it's super weird, because I think I'm honestly starting to really really like him and I just don't know what to do, so please help me.   Call 4: Hi, I just called but it was kind of a messy call so I 'm going to try it again. So I am 21 in this situation and my ex is 22 and we're both Aries. So what happened was that last week he broke up with me on Friday. It has now been three days later. I'm very much still mourning and grieving but the issue is that all happened out of nowhere and I'm struggling to believe his reasonings for the break up. So the entire time last week, everything was completely normal. There were so many I love yous and verbal affirmations and heart emojis, even the day before everything had happened where he broke up with me. I sent him like "Hey, I'm really looking forward to seeing you tomorrow, it's going to be so fun you know hanging out again" and he was like, "yeah, likewise, of course" and even the night before it, like we always text each other goodbye or sorry not goodbye, good night, and he sent me a voice memo and he said I love you like two times in it and it was just a very like sweet and cute voice memo so I kept it. And the next day rolls around and it's a very normal day again, you know, nothing much to comment on there and what I realize happening was that yeah. I was just, sorry. I was just getting ready and everything and he was at the gym and out of nowhere it's like, "Hey, can I stop by your house really quick?" And I was like "sure, but why" and he said "it was better to be said in person and I'll be there in 20 minutes." So I had twenty minutes to shift my perspective from, yo, this guy could be the one that like I can marry, I could definitely see a future with this guy. We've been working toward the future, we have that common goal and he comes over, he breaks up with me and his reasoning was that he doesn't love me anymore and I'm struggling to believe that, because every part of his behavior said that he loves me still, like I asked him if that's true, like why were you giving me so many verbal affirmations? Why were we making plans for the future? I was supposed to be hanging out with him this week, it was his plan and he just told me that he was, it was all a lie and he was just breaking down and sobbing and I'm sorry. I just really have a hard time believing his reasoning. And I guess I would just like you guys to tell me about what you think of all of this because it truly did come out of nowhere and even towards the bitter end to him and I were just hugging and laughing and at one point I kissed his cheek and he just smiled back at me and we were holding hands and I kissed his hand and he kissed mine and I asked him how much how much of the relationship was real and he said all of it, so very clearly my issue here, is that it just it seems he seems so conflicted. So I guess I'm looking for guidance. I know that you guys can't read his mind. But what do you think is going to happen with him?   Call 5: Hi Meghan and Melisa, I'm trying to keep this short without sparing any like big details but basically so my mom passed away a year ago last July and we just hit a year, and I'm an immigrant. She was an immigrant and I currently am living with my stepdad, the man who she married to come move here. We moved out of the house that we lived in with my mom and we are living in a duplex while he's building a house. So, you know, he gave me a room there, all that kind of stuff whatever anyways, for reference. I'm Twenty-One and he's in his fifties. So I started realizing last night. He was like, oh I'm just going to like go out or whatever and he was all dressed up and he left at like 3 and he didn't come back until like 10:30, which is strange and I was texting my boyfriend and he was like, well, maybe it's a work dinner thing and I'm like, no, like he's not a late-night person whatever and then today I was with a friend and we were leaving the house and he like changed his clothes and he's like, you know, just going to go drop off the rent check, I was like, okay, well like he'll be back home when I get back home cuz we were going shopping to get a swimsuit anyways, and I've been back home for 3 hours now and he is not here. And so I feel like he's starting to date again. I don't really know how I feel about it. Like we're not very close. So if he were to just like seriously start dating, I don't know like where I would go or what I would do or what my relationship with his family would be like because I'm closer to some of his family members than I am him and like a few weeks ago, he asked me to take pictures of him for his mom, which is like really weird. He got like dressed up and like got on his bike cuz he likes cycling and stuff. You know again, I'm just saying I asked his mom and she didn't know of anything and I'm putting it out all together and he's definitely dating again. I don't know if  like if this is normal to feel like I'm mad at him, because I feel like this is so fucking awful. But I feel like he should still be like grieving and not dating, and like I was at my boyfriend's house. I came back and my bedroom door was closed, all the little things that I had left out in the living room and stuff, were just thrown on my bed. So he obviously had people over and like he doesn't have any friends by the way, so it's not like he had like a party. I don't really know what I'm asking for. I guess I just want to know like is this normal and if other people have dealt with it and like what to do because he hasn't said anything about it and people keep telling you to bring it up. But like I said, we're very close so it's kind of uncomfortable. Yeah, it's weird and I'd like to go on a road trip with him to help his oldest daughter who is like 24, move out of her apartment, and it's just like uncomfortable. I don't know. Please help me. Okay. Thanks. Love you guys bye.   Update: Hi guys, this is an update. I'm calling back from the episode - I don't know the like seasons or the episode numbers cause I don't see them anymore - but it was just the latest episode that is titled "my boyfriend is jealous of my sex toy". I'm the girl who was cheating on these two guys, one of them being my my boyfriend living in Hawaii, the other one being my fuck-buddy living in California. I also live in California so yea Melisa was right, I do travel from LA to Hawaii. It is a quick flight. Anyway, I have a great update, some great news for you guys. I am in therapy and my therapist and I have discussed all of these things and worked all these things out and I realized that I wasn't being aware of my own cheating and I just thought it was okay and dismissful because these other two men were cheating on me too, and I realized that that's not fucking okay, and so I completely blocked my fuckbuddy on everything. We do not speak anymore and me and my boyfriend - I decided to give that a real and genuine shot. So I aired out all my dirty laundry to him and worked through that and he has accepted that because he also made mistakes in the past and we are working to have a healthy relationship. I know that you guys told me to either have an open relationship or to break up with both of them, but I didn't see the podcast until today. So that is what has happened. Things are going really really good with me and my boyfriend right now. I have been completely faithful to him. And from what I know, he's been completely faithful to me and the trust issues are getting patched and everything seems to be going great. So yeah therapy is the answer, is the lesson learned here. Therapy is always the answer. Please do it. It's saved me so much heartache, so much headache, everything. It's amazing and I love you guys. Thank you for the advice. I love you bye. Support the show: https://www.patreon.com/join/dontblameme See omnystudio.com/policies/listener for privacy information.

S6E15: He’s In Love with His Coworker w/ Melisa D. Monts

This week we’re sharing advice on:    Choosing a career Discerning biphobia Wanting to get married Supporting strangers online Update: boyfriend wants a polyamorous relationship   Follow Us! @meghanrienks www.instagram.com/meghanrienks  @dontblamemepod  https://www.instagram.com/dontblamemepod/ @sheisnotmelissa www.instagram.com/sheisnotmelissa     Listen to ad-free on Stitcher Premium! For a free month of Stitcher Premium, go to stitcherpremium.com and use promo code 'BLAME,’ PLUS exclusive bonus episodes.     Affordable Therapy By State (Curated by Crissy Milazzo): www.tinyurl.com/y64kwdnf    Need Advice?  www.dontblameme.show  Domestic Listeners Call: (310) 694-0976   International Listeners Send a Voice Memo To: meghanpodcast@gmail.com    … with as much detail as possible under 3 minutes! I’ll do my best to share my wonderful words of wisdom. If you’re under 18, please get your parent’s permission. Advice is for entertainment purposes only, so you can’t blame me if I screw up your life. I kid! My advice IS AMAZING. - Want to WATCH this episode as well? Check out the YouTube channel:  https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC9SMwL3ZgCUsD-yIDU_Zsqg/ Support the show: https://www.patreon.com/join/dontblameme See omnystudio.com/policies/listener for privacy information.

S6E14: He Writes Songs About His Exes w/ Melisa D. Monts

This week we’re sharing advice on:    Making friends Differing hobbies in a relationship Boyfriend won’t wear a condom How to tell if a guy is into you Update: boyfriend calling you fat   Follow Us! @meghanrienks www.instagram.com/meghanrienks  @dontblamemepod  https://www.instagram.com/dontblamemepod/ @sheisnotmelissa www.instagram.com/sheisnotmelissa     Listen to ad-free on Stitcher Premium! For a free month of Stitcher Premium, go to stitcherpremium.com and use promo code 'BLAME,’ PLUS exclusive bonus episodes.     Affordable Therapy By State (Curated by Crissy Milazzo): www.tinyurl.com/y64kwdnf    Need Advice?  www.dontblameme.show  Domestic Listeners Call: (310) 694-0976   International Listeners Send a Voice Memo To: meghanpodcast@gmail.com    … with as much detail as possible under 3 minutes! I’ll do my best to share my wonderful words of wisdom. If you’re under 18, please get your parent’s permission. Advice is for entertainment purposes only, so you can’t blame me if I screw up your life. I kid! My advice IS AMAZING. - Want to WATCH this episode as well? Check out the YouTube channel:  https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC9SMwL3ZgCUsD-yIDU_Zsqg/ Support the show: https://www.patreon.com/join/dontblameme

S6E13: He Doesn’t Brush His Teeth w/ Melisa D. Monts

This week we’re sharing advice on:    Getting ghosted by dates Not being ready to move in together Living with your boyfriend’s mom Dating with a pelvic floor condition Don’t Blame Them: talking with teens about sex   Follow Us! @meghanrienks www.instagram.com/meghanrienks  @dontblamemepod  https://www.instagram.com/dontblamemepod/ @sheisnotmelissa www.instagram.com/sheisnotmelissa     Listen to ad-free on Stitcher Premium! For a free month of Stitcher Premium, go to stitcherpremium.com and use promo code 'BLAME,’ PLUS exclusive bonus episodes.     Affordable Therapy By State (Curated by Crissy Milazzo): www.tinyurl.com/y64kwdnf    Need Advice?  www.dontblameme.show  Domestic Listeners Call: (310) 694-0976   International Listeners Send a Voice Memo To: meghanpodcast@gmail.com    … with as much detail as possible under 3 minutes! I’ll do my best to share my wonderful words of wisdom. If you’re under 18, please get your parent’s permission. Advice is for entertainment purposes only, so you can’t blame me if I screw up your life. I kid! My advice IS AMAZING. - Want to WATCH this episode as well? Check out the YouTube channel:  https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC9SMwL3ZgCUsD-yIDU_Zsqg/ Support the show: https://www.patreon.com/join/dontblameme

S6E12: Wanking with a Cap w/ Melisa D. Monts

This week we’re sharing advice on:    Best friend ghosting you Friend backing out of living together Pandemic dating Dating as a demisexual Update: Boyfriend’s ex threatened to kill me   Follow Us! @meghanrienks www.instagram.com/meghanrienks  @dontblamemepod  https://www.instagram.com/dontblamemepod/ @sheisnotmelissa www.instagram.com/sheisnotmelissa     Listen to ad-free on Stitcher Premium! For a free month of Stitcher Premium, go to stitcherpremium.com and use promo code 'BLAME,’ PLUS exclusive bonus episodes.     Affordable Therapy By State (Curated by Crissy Milazzo): www.tinyurl.com/y64kwdnf    Need Advice?  www.dontblameme.show  Domestic Listeners Call: (310) 694-0976   International Listeners Send a Voice Memo To: meghanpodcast@gmail.com    … with as much detail as possible under 3 minutes! I’ll do my best to share my wonderful words of wisdom. If you’re under 18, please get your parent’s permission. Advice is for entertainment purposes only, so you can’t blame me if I screw up your life. I kid! My advice IS AMAZING. - Want to WATCH this episode as well? Check out the YouTube channel:  https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC9SMwL3ZgCUsD-yIDU_Zsqg/   Support the show: https://www.patreon.com/join/dontblameme

S6E11: Boyfriend Won’t Move Out w/ Melisa D. Monts

This week we’re sharing advice on:    Telling dirty stories in bed Having trouble with penetrative sex Boyfriend needing to add a third person to the relationship Dealing with an unstable stepmom Don’t Blame Them: boyfriend gaining weight   Never Sleep Alone Call Dr. Alex at 646-484-9371 and be part of the NSA Podcast! https://www.neversleepalone.com/nsa-podcast   Follow Us! @meghanrienks www.instagram.com/meghanrienks  @dontblamemepod  https://www.instagram.com/dontblamemepod/ @sheisnotmelissa www.instagram.com/sheisnotmelissa @sheisnotmelissa on Twitter: https://twitter.com/SheIsNotMelissa     Listen to ad-free on Stitcher Premium! For a free month of Stitcher Premium, go to stitcherpremium.com and use promo code 'BLAME,’ PLUS exclusive bonus episodes.     Affordable Therapy By State (Curated by Crissy Milazzo): www.tinyurl.com/y64kwdnf    Need Advice?  www.dontblameme.show  Domestic Listeners Call: (310) 694-0976   International Listeners Send a Voice Memo To: meghanpodcast@gmail.com    … with as much detail as possible under 3 minutes! I’ll do my best to share my wonderful words of wisdom. If you’re under 18, please get your parent’s permission. Advice is for entertainment purposes only, so you can’t blame me if I screw up your life. I kid! My advice IS AMAZING. - Want to WATCH this episode as well? Check out the YouTube channel:  https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC9SMwL3ZgCUsD-yIDU_Zsqg/ Support the show: https://www.patreon.com/join/dontblameme

S6E10: We Grew Up In A Cult w/ Melisa D. Monts

This week we’re sharing advice on:    Roommate acting like you’re a couple Feeling inferior to others Fiance getting someone else pregnant How to navigate two guys at once Update: best friend used me to cheat on her husband   Follow Us! @meghanrienks www.instagram.com/meghanrienks  @dontblamemepod  https://www.instagram.com/dontblamemepod/ @sheisnotmelissa www.instagram.com/sheisnotmelissa     Listen to ad-free on Stitcher Premium! For a free month of Stitcher Premium, go to stitcherpremium.com and use promo code 'BLAME,’ PLUS exclusive bonus episodes.     Affordable Therapy By State (Curated by Crissy Milazzo): www.tinyurl.com/y64kwdnf    Need Advice?  www.dontblameme.show  Domestic Listeners Call: (310) 694-0976   International Listeners Send a Voice Memo To: meghanpodcast@gmail.com    … with as much detail as possible under 3 minutes! I’ll do my best to share my wonderful words of wisdom. If you’re under 18, please get your parent’s permission. Advice is for entertainment purposes only, so you can’t blame me if I screw up your life. I kid! My advice IS AMAZING. - Want to WATCH this episode as well? Check out the YouTube channel:  https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC9SMwL3ZgCUsD-yIDU_Zsqg/ Support the show: https://www.patreon.com/join/dontblameme

S6E9: My Boyfriend’s Jealous of My Toy w/ Melisa D. Monts

This week we’re sharing advice on:    Being asked to be a bridesmaid when you don’t want to Saying no Partner identifying as gender-fluid Boyfriend not initiating activities Don’t Blame Them: supporting friends in a toxic relationship   Subscribe to the new Don’t Blame Me YouTube channel: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC9SMwL3ZgCUsD-yIDU_Zsqg/   Follow Us! @meghanrienks www.instagram.com/meghanrienks  @dontblamemepod  https://www.instagram.com/dontblamemepod/ @sheisnotmelissa www.instagram.com/sheisnotmelissa     Listen to ad-free on Stitcher Premium! For a free month of Stitcher Premium, go to stitcherpremium.com and use promo code 'BLAME,’ PLUS exclusive bonus episodes.     Affordable Therapy By State (Curated by Crissy Milazzo): www.tinyurl.com/y64kwdnf    Need Advice?  www.dontblameme.show  Domestic Listeners Call: (310) 694-0976   International Listeners Send a Voice Memo To: meghanpodcast@gmail.com    … with as much detail as possible under 3 minutes! I’ll do my best to share my wonderful words of wisdom. If you’re under 18, please get your parent’s permission. Advice is for entertainment purposes only, so you can’t blame me if I screw up your life. I kid! My advice IS AMAZING. - Want to WATCH this episode as well? Check out the YouTube channel:  https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC9SMwL3ZgCUsD-yIDU_Zsqg/ Support the show: https://www.patreon.com/join/dontblameme

S6E8: My Stepbrother Stole My Panties w/ Melisa D. Monts

This week we’re sharing advice on:    Dating someone whose stepbrother is your uncle Friends not actively supporting Black Lives Matter People thinking you’re spoiled Mom wanting to move in Update to a Don’t Blame Them: dating a momma’s boy   Subscribe to the new Don’t Blame Me YouTube channel: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC9SMwL3ZgCUsD-yIDU_Zsqg/   Follow Us! @meghanrienks www.instagram.com/meghanrienks  @dontblamemepod  https://www.instagram.com/dontblamemepod/ @sheisnotmelissa www.instagram.com/sheisnotmelissa     Listen to ad-free on Stitcher Premium! For a free month of Stitcher Premium, go to stitcherpremium.com and use promo code 'BLAME,’ PLUS exclusive bonus episodes.     Affordable Therapy By State (Curated by Crissy Milazzo): www.tinyurl.com/y64kwdnf    Need Advice?  www.dontblameme.show  Domestic Listeners Call: (310) 694-0976   International Listeners Send a Voice Memo To: meghanpodcast@gmail.com    … with as much detail as possible under 3 minutes! I’ll do my best to share my wonderful words of wisdom. If you’re under 18, please get your parent’s permission. Advice is for entertainment purposes only, so you can’t blame me if I screw up your life. I kid! My advice IS AMAZING. - Want to WATCH this episode as well? Check out the YouTube channel:  https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC9SMwL3ZgCUsD-yIDU_Zsqg/ Support the show: https://www.patreon.com/join/dontblameme

S6E7: No-Mask Wedding w/ Melisa D. Monts

Trigger Warning: Negative Body Talk - Call 1   This week we’re sharing advice on:    Boyfriend gaining weight Telling your boyfriend’s sister you don’t have sex Being concerned your boyfriend is overmedicated Bad tasting cum Don’t Blame Them: boyfriend playing too many video games   Subscribe to the new Don’t Blame Me YouTube channel: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC9SMwL3ZgCUsD-yIDU_Zsqg/featured   Follow Us! @meghanrienks www.instagram.com/meghanrienks  @dontblamemepod  https://www.instagram.com/dontblamemepod/ @sheisnotmelissa www.instagram.com/sheisnotmelissa     Listen to ad-free on Stitcher Premium! For a free month of Stitcher Premium, go to stitcherpremium.com and use promo code 'BLAME,’ PLUS exclusive bonus episodes.     Affordable Therapy By State (Curated by Crissy Milazzo): www.tinyurl.com/y64kwdnf    Need Advice?  www.dontblameme.show  Domestic Listeners Call: (310) 694-0976   International Listeners Send a Voice Memo To: meghanpodcast@gmail.com    … with as much detail as possible under 3 minutes! I’ll do my best to share my wonderful words of wisdom. If you’re under 18, please get your parent’s permission. Advice is for entertainment purposes only, so you can’t blame me if I screw up your life. I kid! My advice IS AMAZING. - Want to WATCH this episode as well? Check out my YouTube channel:  http://youtube.com/meghanrienks Support the show: https://www.patreon.com/join/dontblameme

S6E6: My Bestfriend Used Me to Cheat on Her Husband w/ Melisa D. Monts

This week we’re sharing advice on:    Why your conversation went dry Girlfriend smokes and drinks too much Girlfriend getting a culturally-inappropriate tattoo Supporting a friend in a toxic relationship Don’t Blame Them: having a senior boyfriend   Never Sleep Alone (Melisa’s second newest podcast!): If you’ve got a question about sex or dating, call Dr. Alex at 646-484-9371 and be part of the NSA Podcast. All callers remain anonymous, and no topic is off the table.   Follow Us! @meghanrienks www.instagram.com/meghanrienks  @dontblamemepod  https://www.instagram.com/dontblamemepod/ @sheisnotmelissa www.instagram.com/sheisnotmelissa     Listen to ad-free on Stitcher Premium! For a free month of Stitcher Premium, go to stitcherpremium.com and use promo code 'BLAME,’ PLUS exclusive bonus episodes.     Affordable Therapy By State (Curated by Crissy Milazzo): www.tinyurl.com/y64kwdnf    Need Advice?  www.dontblameme.show  Domestic Listeners Call: (310) 694-0976   International Listeners Send a Voice Memo To: meghanpodcast@gmail.com    … with as much detail as possible under 3 minutes! I’ll do my best to share my wonderful words of wisdom. If you’re under 18, please get your parent’s permission. Advice is for entertainment purposes only, so you can’t blame me if I screw up your life. I kid! My advice IS AMAZING. - Want to WATCH this episode as well? Check out my YouTube channel:  http://youtube.com/meghanrienks Support the show.

S6E5: My Boyfriend’s Ex Threatened to Kill Me w/ Melisa D. Monts

This week we’re sharing advice on:    Boyfriend talking to a teacher Boyfriend checking in on his ex Boyfriend texting escorts Talking dirty to your husband Update: Coma   Follow Us! @meghanrienks www.instagram.com/meghanrienks  @dontblameme  https://www.instagram.com/dontblamemepod/ @sheisnotmelissa www.instagram.com/sheisnotmelissa     Listen to ad-free on Stitcher Premium! For a free month of Stitcher Premium, go to stitcherpremium.com and use promo code 'BLAME,’ PLUS exclusive bonus episodes.     Affordable Therapy By State (Curated by Crissy Milazzo): www.tinyurl.com/y64kwdnf    Need Advice?  www.dontblameme.show  Domestic Listeners Call: (310) 694-0976   International Listeners Send a Voice Memo To: meghanpodcast@gmail.com    … with as much detail as possible under 3 minutes! I’ll do my best to share my wonderful words of wisdom. If you’re under 18, please get your parent’s permission. Advice is for entertainment purposes only, so you can’t blame me if I screw up your life. I kid! My advice IS AMAZING. - Want to WATCH this episode as well? Check out my YouTube channel:  http://youtube.com/meghanrienks Support the show.

S6E4: My Twin Slept with My Best Friend w/ Melisa D. Monts

This week we’re sharing advice on:    Dealing with your racist friend Knowing if a guy is genuine Being stuck in the middle of a fighting family members Wishing your boyfriend would spend more time with you Update from the caller that dated her friend’s ex Threads of Black Owned Businesses to Help: https://twitter.com/hopewrlds/status/... https://twitter.com/jadealycebod/stat...   If You’re Not an Ally, You’re an Enemy: https://www.instagram.com/p/CAvvLskDapa/   Follow Us! @meghanrienks www.instagram.com/meghanrienks  @dontblameme  https://www.instagram.com/dontblamemepod/ @sheisnotmelissa www.instagram.com/sheisnotmelissa     Listen to ad-free on Stitcher Premium! For a free month of Stitcher Premium, go to stitcherpremium.com and use promo code 'BLAME,’ PLUS exclusive bonus episodes.     Affordable Therapy By State (Curated by Crissy Milazzo): www.tinyurl.com/y64kwdnf    Need Advice?  www.dontblameme.show  Domestic Listeners Call: (310) 694-0976   International Listeners Send a Voice Memo To: meghanpodcast@gmail.com    … with as much detail as possible under 3 minutes! I’ll do my best to share my wonderful words of wisdom. If you’re under 18, please get your parent’s permission. Advice is for entertainment purposes only, so you can’t blame me if I screw up your life. I kid! My advice IS AMAZING. - Want to WATCH this episode as well? Check out my YouTube channel:  http://youtube.com/meghanrienks Support the show.

S6E3: I Look Like Fun w/ Melisa D. Monts

DISCLAIMER: This episode is pre-recorded and has no discussion of current events. To our Black listeners: there is no potentially triggering race content in this episode. To our white & non-Black listeners: here is a resource doc made by twitter user @botanicaldyke on countless ways to help the cause https://bit.ly/3doDFXB    Threads of Black Owned Businesses to Help: https://twitter.com/hopewrlds/status/... https://twitter.com/jadealycebod/stat...   If You’re Not an Ally, You’re an Enemy: https://www.instagram.com/p/CAvvLskDapa/   This week we’re sharing advice on:    Public image of your relationship Anxious about starting college online Coming out as Asexual Sleeping with every guy on the first date Update from the caller that met a 35-year-old man on a cruise when she was 16   Join our PRIVATE Facebook Group:www.facebook.com/groups/dbmsecretgroup  You must answer all questions correctly to be approved!   Follow Us! @meghanrienks www.instagram.com/meghanrienks  @dontblameme  https://www.instagram.com/dontblamemepod/ @sheisnotmelissa www.instagram.com/sheisnotmelissa     Listen to ad-free on Stitcher Premium! For a free month of Stitcher Premium, go to stitcherpremium.com and use promo code 'BLAME,’ PLUS exclusive bonus episodes.     Affordable Therapy By State (Curated by Crissy Milazzo): www.tinyurl.com/y64kwdnf    Need Advice?  www.dontblameme.show  Domestic Listeners Call: (310) 694-0976   International Listeners Send a Voice Memo To: meghanpodcast@gmail.com    … with as much detail as possible under 3 minutes! I’ll do my best to share my wonderful words of wisdom. If you’re under 18, please get your parent’s permission. Advice is for entertainment purposes only, so you can’t blame me if I screw up your life. I kid! My advice IS AMAZING. - Want to WATCH this episode as well? Check out my YouTube channel:  http://youtube.com/meghanrienks Support the show.

My Friend’s Girlfriend is Threatened by Me w/ Melisa D. Monts

Don’t Blame Me! is a weekly call-in advice audio and video podcast. Fellow work-in-progress, 20-something actress and internet personality Meghan Rienks brings her blunt, truthful, and hilarious wisdom on topics such as sex, mental health, and relationships. The advice may be questionable, but always well meaning. Hey, you can’t blame her for screwing up your life. 

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