This is episode #8 of a 20 episode series on raising confident children and the characteristics + habits confident children embody. The truth is we all have solutions and answers to the things that we go through.  The solutions and answers can be found in our heart space.   However we as human beings are so in our head space with our thoughts and beliefs that we start to believe we don’t know what we should do causing us to feel paralyzed or stuck and unable to create change. We as parents can give our kids a beautiful gift of helping them navigate solutions to whatever it is they are facing. In this episode I will show you how you can navigate solutions with your kids allowing them to feel empowered and confident.

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Navigate Solutions

This is episode #7 of a 20 episode series on raising confident children and the characteristics + habits confident children embody. What is empathy anyways?  Empathy according to Websters Dictionary is “the ability to understand and share the feelings of another.” Why is empathy so important in the parent child relationship?  Empathy builds connection and where there is connection their confidence in the relationship and in the child.  Why?  Because they know that whatever they go through, they are not alone! In this episode we will take a closer look at what empathy truly is and how you can empathize with your child ultimately creating an environment for their confidence to grow.

Empathize With Your Child

This is episode #6 of a 20 episode series on raising confident children and the characteristics + habits confident children embody. We all grow up carrying with us our deeply engrained beliefs.  Typically from the age of 0-7 is when our beliefs systems were created. Our belief systems are created based on culture, religion, parental upbringing and our earliest experiences. It's these beliefs systems that were created that become the lens in which we see the world, relationships ect. It is also our beliefs that create our feelings, thoughts and reactions. Truth is our children also have these belief systems and their behaviors are a clue for us the parent to help them navigate. In this episode I will show you how discussing your childs feelings, thoughts and beliefs will allow them to shed what no longer serves them setting them free and building their confidence.

Discuss Your Childs Feelings, Thoughts and Beliefs

This is episode #5 of a 20 episode series on raising confident children and the characteristics + habits confident children embody. All to often as parents we miss the underlying root or need beneath our child's behavior and find ourselves reacting to them based on our perception or judgement of the situation, circumstance or behavior. In this epsiode I am going to show you how you can identify the underlying root and need of your child to create an environment of healing and peace.

Identify Your Child's Needs

This is episode #4 of a 20 episode series on raising confident children and the characteristics + habits confident children embody. “Our expectations are a disguise for our fears and unmet inner needs.”  Dr Shefali The Awakened Family If I were to ask you what are three things you expect of your child, you would probably be able to give me three expectations right off the bat.   Here's the deal we all have expectations whether we are aware of them or not.  Not only do we have expectations, we are often deeply attached to them.  Our attachment to expectations, what we think our child "should" do and be creates disconnection. When we free our child from our expectations, we create an environment that welcomes engagement and connection. So how then do we create an environment that welcomes connection and frees our child from our expectations?  We become aware of what our underlying unmet inner need and fear is. You see expectations are a way to control and quite simply a coping skill we have developed to ease our fear and unmet inner needs.   Come hang out with me and I will show you how to discover your fear behind your expectations and how to free your child from them.

Free Your Child From Your Expectations

We all have deeply rooted beliefs! From 0-7 years of age is typically when our core beliefs were created and influenced by culture, religion, parental upbringing, relationships, environment ect. We carry these beliefs with us throughout our whole life, they become the lenses in which we view the world and relationships. When we have children all to often these deeply rooted beliefs unconsciously get projected onto our children.   Come hang out with me as I share how you can become aware of your judgements, deconsctruct how they got there, shed them and heal so both you and your child can live in a judgement free zone!

Notice Your Judgements

This episode is #2 of a 20 episode series on raising confident children and the characteristics + habits confident children embody! By observing the child in front of you the parent/caregiver creates an envrionment for the childs confidence to grow by sending the message to the child that they are loved as is and there is nothing to fix.  The parent/caregiver recognizes their own projections, perceptions, desires and dreams and is conscious to not place these onto the child.  Instead the parent/caregiver celebrates the child in front of them for all that they are and guides them according to the childs true authentic self. Come hang out with me as we do a deep dive on how you can begin to remove the lenses and be able to observe the child in front of you.

Observe the Child In Front of You

Hey sis!  This episode is #1 of a 20 episode series on raising confident children and the characteristics + habits confident children embody!   To create a safe environment for our child's cofidence to grow, the parent/caregiver must meet three needs.  These three needs are: + To be seen + To know they are worthy + To know they matter Come hang out with me as we do a deep dive into how we can meet each of these needs, resulting in the creation of a safe environment.

Create A Safe Environment

Driving in the car with your kids can be an environment that allows for some of the most beautiful conversations!  The other day my sweet daughter asked some beautiful questions on our drive to cheer which led to an amazing conversation.   The conversation was so powerful that I just have to share with you the three things that came up for me.  As parents if we can do these three things consistently with neutral energy we will have a hand in healing this world that currently has so much division and instead create connection. 

It Starts At Home

Do you have a todo list that never seems to end?  Are you constantly on the go?  Do the words SLOW DOWN make you anxious?  Life can naturally be busy and it takes mindfulness and intention to slow down and be still.  If we don't, life will pass us by and we won’t be able to experience the deep connection with ourselves and others that human beings need to thrive. Here’s the deal when we jam pack our days and are busy going from one thing to the next or tirelessly trying to cross everything off our todo list we miss the beauty that is found in stillness, that is found in the present moment.  When we slow down we create space to observe the child in front of us and really get to know them.  When we slow down we look at our kids with adoration, love and curiosity. Slow down for what?  Slow down to experience all the joy this life offers.

Slow Down For What

Most of us unless we are somewhat conscious go through our days unconscious.  Meaning we go from one thing to another with no real thought.  It’s almost as if we are robots moving mindlessly through our days unaware of how we are feeling inside,  unaware of our environment and its effects on us and unaware of what is causing us to emotionally react. The road to consciousness is a journey.  When we start to become more and more aware of what is happening within us and around us it is normal to feel well overwhelmed with the thought of all the things we quote on quote need to work on or change. Two words sis DEEP BREATHE.  One thing at a time.  Just like an athlete in training create a plan and focus on one thing at a time. Come hang out with me and I will show you how you can take change and growth step by step creating healthy habits and patterns that will stick all while giving yourself grace in the process.

Consciousness and Overwhelm

We are more comfortable being uncomfortable than we are with taking the appropriate steps to make changes to experience true joy, true happiness, liberation and freedom.  It’s almost as if we are allergic to change. Come hang out with me sis and I will share with you tools you can use to effectively make the changes needed in your life that will create an environment for the life and relationships you desire!

Allergic to Change

I was watching a leadership conference and one of the speakers said something that really spoke to my soul.  She said, "You can shape the world to your desires."  I mean how empowering is that?   It got me to thinking, we can also shape our family to our desires!  How?  Listen in and I will share with ya sista!

The Family You Desire

Two words “teen years!”  For some of you these words may bring up feelings of stress and anxiety because you have heard how difficult the teen years can be.  Maybe you are in the thick of the “teen years” feeling disconnected as if you and your child are living on different planets.  The words “teen years” may bring up sadness because you feel like you are loosing your baby.  You may find yourself dreaming of the days when your child was little and looked at you with adoring eyes never wanting to leave your side.  I get it! There comes a time where when our kids become pre teens and teens who start wanting their own space and independence.  All to often as parents we take that change so personal, as if it was a direct reflection of how our kids feel about us.   Here is the deal the teen years don’t have to be difficult, in fact it can be an absolutely beautiful season providing you with an opportunity to grow personally, create a deeper connection with your child and build healthy communication.   Come hang out with me and I will share with you how spending intentional time building deep connection and strong communication will allow you and your teen to sail through the adolescent years and have a solid relationship.   Book Resource: Brainstorm The Power and Purpose of The Teenage Brain by Daniel J. Siegel, MD

Got Teens?

Have you ever emotionally reacted to your child and afterwards thought where in the world did that come from? As Maya Angelou would say, “Do the best you can until you know better.  Then when you know better do better.” Our mind is the most powerful tool we have and can be our best friend once we understand how it works and take action cleaning up and replacing the old programs. Dr. Joe Dispenza says, “We cannot create a new future by holding onto the emotions of the past.” Come hang out with me sis and I will share with you: WHY you emotionally react without even thinking. WHAT you can do to stop the emotional reaction. HOW you can replace it with a healthy peaceful response.

How Did I Get Here?

Shedding light on how to keep the fabric pieces of your family sewn together with strong seams and no loose strings. My hope is that you will walk away from each episode feeling FREE AS A BIRD, saying goodbye to mama guilt and ready to soar becoming the mama you were created to be! Ready to fly?