Derek had a great chat with Paul on his approach and techniques when dealing with his kids. Paul runs Derek through one example of how the family came to a rational agreement on the best way to handle the screen time issue using an ACT matrix. Armed with a piece of paper, a pen and some post-it notes, Paul managed to come to a calm agreement on sensible screen use. Next episode Paul will be running Derek and his 12 YO son through a similar position, but not something as serious and volatile as screen time. They will probably tackle Derek's desire to teach Tom the skills of his trade and use resources at hand to give him a great head start in the modern world of streaming and content creation. Paul sent some links to info in the topics we discussed...https://l.facebook.com/l.php?u=https%...https://l.facebook.com/l.php?u=https%...

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Dads In Lockdown - Paul McIntosh - using ACT psychology to negotiate with kids

Genius artist and hair stylist Pete Richards is raising a daughter with his partner Katie in the regional town of Castlemaine. Pete has some great insights into managing the pressure cooker of family life in lockdown, as well as running his business - Cirkas Hair in neighbouring town, Kynetonhttps://www.facebook.com/cirkashair/

Dads In Lockdown - Pete Richards - Regional Lockdown and keeping the peace

Derek had a great chat with musician Brooke Penrose about all kinds of things from making a record by yourself to the terrors of NOT helicopter parenting.Brooke is the singer and Guitarist in the Melbourne based rock band Saint Jude, the owner of Captain B studios and does magnificent illustrations.Thanks to Yarra Arts for the Smarty Grants help that allowed us to equip ourselves to send recording gear to remote dads.

Dads In Lockdown - Brooke Penrose - Staying Creative at home with kids

We had a great chat with Adam White from a Sydney Quarantine Hotel Room.  Adam knew what was coming when he applied for special permission to visit his gravely ill mother in the UK. what he did not know was that Victoria would have an outbreak, leaving him locked in a hotel room in Sydney while his family were locked down in a Melbourne suburb. Adam shared what the quarantine process is like, dealing with the loss of his mum in the UK, and what the future looks like for his kids.Thanks mate for sharing and helping us all get a better understanding of what is happening all around us.  

Dads In Lockdown - Hotel Quarantine with Adam White

Derek and Dan talk about the things they have learnt from their many and varied guests. Home Births, raising children in a truck, Broome Dads, BASE jumping and crocodile hunting, From space Gandalf to Uncle Jack Charles. Fathers with chronic illness, fathers who have lost a child, fathers, Grandfathers, Doctors and psychologists. Skater Dads, Comedians, Cinematographers, and Dads who grew up in the circus. If you missed an episode go back and listen to some more of these amazing Dads and their stories over the holiday season. Hope you have an exhilarating and restful Christmas and New Year! Stay tuned for something a little different next year folks!

And So This IS Christmas - Derek and Dan reflect on the year's guests

Daniel has written several books on raising children, he runs programs in schools and for other professionals, concerned mainly with improving the way we all use technology to support education and learning. He talks with us mainly about the experience of losing a child- grief as well as growth.  Topics covered: A brief History of Dan’s relationship with Dan.The death of a child: our greatest fear.A culture that doesn’t deal with death.Kids can cope with reality better than we can.Tragedy brings us into the moment- thinking with your body not your head.Remembrance.Remember what is really important- holding onto the perspective that comes from loss and grief.Parenthood increases the spectrum range of emotions.It’s okay to keep the dead alive inside the family narrative and mythology.When do you tell people about the death of a child- it can be hard for people to know what to do.Learning from the dying.Trauma and grief are different, though they often occur together.The digital legacy we leave.Year nine. Whooah!Giving friends at school the space to deal with the death of a friend.Getting down to a child’s level can de-escalate a difficult situation.Forget time quality time- just being around is what matters.You don’t need to be present all the time.Swearing- what happens if you’re not prepared to stop.Parenting in a digital world.Positive screen time. 

Daniel Donahoo: Author, speaker and father of four.

Warwick is a Cinematographer who has filmed, amongst other things, many of Missy Higgins film clips. His erratic and demanding work life has made it hard for him to see his boys as much as he wanted to while they were growing up. We discuss how he managed to have a successful relationship with them. Topics:Grown up kids.Working in the film industry makes family life almost impossible.Guilt- Missing so much of early life with the kids because of work.There is no such thing as no on a film set.Anecdotes from the set.Making Missy Higgins film clips for “Everyone’s waiting” and “Unashamed Desire”.Quality time.Teenage disinterest. It’s all over before you know it.Are boys and girls different- apart from the obvious?When the kids team up against you.Kids are resilient when they know they are loved.Not the person you were when you had kids: changing ethics.Relationships based on shared values.People don’t change unless the pain is bad enough.Climate change and cognitive dissonance. How do you talk to kids about climate change?Fixing the world- there, done! 

Warwick Field: Cinematographer and father of two Adult boys.

Geoff returns to tell us all about the birth of his son, in a bath, in the loungeroom. See episode 23 to hear how he felt before the baby arrived. Topics include:A home birth story- Grateful to have a boring birth.The calmness of the midwives.The pros of birthing in water.First contact- watching the baby emerge.Videos of perfect births in jungle streams.A Scottish home birth for Derek!Placenta encapsulation.An unsettling tangent into horror movies.Life will never be the same again.A father’s relationship with the baby doesn’t really start until the birth.The biological meaning of life is to pass on your genetic information.Jaundice.Ultra sound.The hairy nipple of disappointment.Annoying baby advice.Try to enjoy the chaos.Working at home.Bring on the positive birth stories!Monetize the baby!When your baby looks like Hitler.  

Geoff “Ritchie” Baldwin: Motorcycle Journalist, Blogger, Dad.

Anthony is an extraordinary painter, performer, cancer survivor and father. His work is intense and exciting and his life story is the same. From international artist to Leukemia survivor, Anthony had great success in the art world before he was crippled by GVH disease as a result of a bone marrow transplant. His son moved over-seas to live with his mother while Anthony tried to stay alive. Topics discussed:The physicality of painters.Writing and painting- comparing our process.When Anthony filled the Myers windows with paintings in a week. International success and a high intensity lifestyle and work life.Killing your darlings- process above product.The cancer rollercoaster begins.An unexpected child, brings unwanted vulnerability.The Breslin Gallery.A second chance and facing the fear.Death is as big as life and as important.Transcendence.Being a father when you are fighting cancer.Forced to practice what you believe.The judgemental switch gets turned off.From athlete to invalid.Being ready to go.Finding meaning and relief from self through service and charity work.The individual is an illusion- They’re me and I’m them.   https://www.readings.com.au/review/brezania-by-anthony-breslin http://www.anthonybreslin.com https://www.jahroc.com.au/gallery-category/artists-wa-fine-art-perth-for-sale-margaret-river/anthony-breslin-artist-paintings-for-sale/   

Anthony Breslin: Painter, performer, survivor, father.

This is Terry’s second conversation with us. His main areas of interest are leadership and child psychology and he is Dan’s Dad. Topics discussed:The importance of group singing- preferably at dinner.A bit of singing from the old country- singing at the kids.Passing on the romantic notion of the old country.Guerrilla greening! Illegal planting with the kids. Taking personal responsibility.Developmental psychology. Nurturing life-long learning.Too much information – not enough band width.Learning without a narrative is tough.How we keep people learning.Curating the increased flow of information.Mine craft.TV- active watching. Promote engaging with TV.Making the alternative more interesting.Make everything into narrative- into story.Teaching kids to delay gratification.Emotional intelligence.The marshmallow test.IQ tests.Tenacity and determination will get you a long way in life.The future of work- meaning, fulfilment and AI.Climate change and human population.Kids and resilience through personal responsibility.The upsides of the apocalypse.Man’s search for meaning.No more stuff! Happiness is meaning and connection. 

Terry Lee: Professor of Leadership Psychology, Father and Grandfather.

Dan and Derek have a cheeky phone chat. We explain our upcoming 2 week break for the school holidays and the exciting guest planned to see the year out. Dan is flat with the cold and Derek is tripping balls on hayfever medication. We talk about croup, hospital waiting rooms and Clover's bike crash. see our youtube channel[A CASTAWAY STUDIOS PRODUCTION](http://castawaystudios.com.au/) We support Local Artisans: Check out [13 knives - Hand Forged Blades right here in Easey St](https://13knives.com.au/)

Grumpy old Sick Men on the School Holidays

Uncle Jack isn’t a Dad in the usual sense but he’s certainly the grandfather of Aboriginal theatre and a spiritual father to many indigenous and non-indigenous people alike. Uncle Jack is an Australian icon and a truly beautiful man- look him up, watch his movies and TV (especially the documentary “Bastardy”), read his Autobiography (Born again black Fella) say hello to him in the street. He really is a father to all those who need him. Donate to the Archie Roach Foundation if you’d like to support the incredible and vital work that Uncle Jack and Uncle Archie are doing. http://www.archieroach.com/about-the-foundation https://www.penguin.com.au/books/jack-charles-9780143792222 http://ilbijerri.com.au/event/jack-charles-v-crown/ https://www.smh.com.au/entertainment/theatre/a-bold-exploration-of-the-pursuit-of-sobriety-20181116-h17z3l.html  Being a father figure in the community.In Indigenous societies everyone brings up the children-The move to expunge criminal records so that fathers who have payed their dues can have access to their children. Part of the treaty process in Victoria.Reconstituting community hubs so that the young can access elders and vice versa.The men are missing or behaving badly.Jack’s time in the Box Hill boy’s home.Jack’s family origins- the extraordinary, still unfolding epic, that is the life of Jack Charles.A little on theatre History in Australia.The national Black theatre, Bob Maza and Gary Foley.Jack plays Bennelong naked at the Sydney Opera House with David Gulpilil.Initiation late in life can be confronting.Young men going through lore gives them responsibility and accountability.How Jack met his Aboriginal family as a young man.Jack’s days as a cat BurglarJack continues to discover family members.The real meaning of Moomba.

Uncle Jack Charles- National treasure, respected Elder, Grandfather of Aboriginal Theatre, father to all who need him.

Nick and his wife, are the owner, operators of Team Elwood personal training studio. They have two boys under five and a great approach to fitness and mental wellbeing- while juggling everything else.https://www.teamelwood.com.au Topics discussed:Old dad’s have gotta protect they’re backs.Dan’s double hernia operation from lifting kids that keep growing.The getting off the floor test- how much do you groan?Protect your back!Early starts on no sleep.Dan’s hints for story time relaxation- transition from story to dreamland.The who’s more tired Olympics.Parental amnesia.How judgmental we are before we have kids of our own.Fitness values for kids.Hiding vegetables.Making sure you enjoy exercise.Discovering mental conditions as a result of the challenges of parenthood.Managing the chaos.Being present and the kids with different interests to you.The importance of community and connection for mental health.

Nick Kirk - Personal trainer and Father of two.

Since becoming a father at seventeen in a country town troubled by drug addiction and bored teenagers, Jayden's love for his son and strong desire to give him the best possible life have driven him to work hard, start a skate brand, save money and stay sober. This conversation is a wake up call to all the dads and a lesson in goal setting and sacrifice. Jayden lives in a van. That is cool in the skate world and is a decision he has made to help save money for his long term plan - return to Seymour, where Jayden's son lives with his mother and setup a business. He already has a successful skate brand 'Yeah Gnar' and is developing some top secret prototype inventions. Of course, weekend dad time is awesome cos dad already lives in a camper. The fellas adventure and go out bush away from the digital nasties most weekends, giving the lad the analogue time we all dream of giving our kids. Dan didn't make it in person this episode due to a sick kid but we got a phone in with him which was cool. we discussed Dan's home plumbing Throwing away good appliances Jayden's Yeah Gnar Skate brand - https://www.instagram.com/yeah.gnar/ A CASTAWAY STUDIOS PRODUCTION We support Local Artisans: Check out 13 knives - Hand Forged Blades right here in Easey St

Jayden Sheridan - founder of Yeah Gnar skate brand, father at 17

Hugh is the founder of the Resilience Project and a great bloke. He is dedicated to helping people improve their mental health and resilience. There’s simply too much to write here about the resilience project so just google him- he and his team are doing really great work. On this occasion he joins us to talk about being a father to his son and the one that is on the way. https://theresilienceproject.com.au https://podcasts.apple.com/au/podcast/the-imperfects/id1476501557 Topics discussed. Kids can be cruel. A few amusing anecdotes involving poo and farts. Is swearing really that bad?? People tell you it’s hard but it’s much harder than that! Oh, how we forget the trauma… Let’s have another one! Give the first born a present from the new baby: a lesson in Diplomacy. Siblings become friends in the end. New Yorkers are more friendly when you’ve got a baby. Hugh gets an answer he didn’t want- two kids are much harder than one. The origins of the resilience project. Being over worked when you’ve got a tough child. Exercise as much as you can and find a sport you can’t lose. Purpose for mental health. Vulnerability disarms and relieves stress. Men shouldn’t be allowed in politics. Hugh, teaching in Indian, witnessed uncommon joy. Resilience on the internet- what’s coming next. Kids need to know life isn’t always fair. Man up! Derek misunderstood what it meant at the footy. Hugh’s podcast: the imperfects. Dan overshares. Notting Hill.

Hugh Van Cuylenburg: Resilience Project founder and father.

Join Derek Myers, Dan Lee and their many guests as they discuss fatherhood. Our parenting conversations are sometimes funny, sometimes scary and sometimes sad.. just like every day of being a father in the modern world. Dads - you are not alone.

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