We give our power away in so many ways without even realising it.  In this episode, I share 13 ways we often give our power away at work, ranging from boundaries and people pleasing to deferring authority and underestimating ourselves. I also share 6 things you can do this week to take some of your power back.  By the end of this episode, you’ll have awareness of where you might be giving your power away and will feel ready to be 5% bolder. A quick note that this episode is aimed at those working in the safety of a healthy environment with reasonable people. If you are working within a toxic workplace with aggression, bullying or systemic discrimination it may not be possible or feel safe for you to follow these suggestions and you are not responsible for the situation you find yourself in. FREE QUIZ How much authority do you have as a leader? Take my free quiz to find out how much authority you have as a leader. You’ll get instant access to the exact steps you can take to build your authority and influence. https://www.carlamillertraining.com/authority-quiz FREE MASTERCLASS How to be an influential leader without self-doubt holding you back Sign-up to my free masterclass and learn the three big influencing mistakes that are holding you back, the steps you can take to become a more influential leader and how you can turn down the volume on your inner critic. Available only until 9 May https://carlamiller.lpages.co/beaninfluentialleader   INFLUENCE & IMPACT Find out more about my 12-month group training and coaching programme for female leaders who want to become brilliant at influencing, tackle self-doubt and make more impact at work. Don’t miss out, enrolment closes 21 May. https://www.carlamillertraining.com/influence-impact My other podcasts mentioned in this episode: Ep 18: How to leave bullying bosses in the past Ep 21: Handling negative feedback like a pro Ep 32: Why we look to others for validation Follow me on: LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/carlamiller1/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thisiscarlamiller/   HOW CAN I SUPPORT THE PODCAST? Subscribe it's FREE Share this episode with a friend Leave a review I would love to hear you feedback on this week’s podcast. Please leave a review or come say hello on social! Thank you for listening, see you next week!  

Inner-driven Leaders

Ep 44 How we give our power away

In this episode of the Influence & Impact podcast I catch up with Harriet Minter, author of “Working From Home: How to build a career you love when you’re not in the office”.  Harriet has been writing about women and work for the past 15 years so we explore lots of interesting topics including… Managing your team remotely The future of hybrid working Strategies for building your brand and profile when working remotely Exactly how to ask for a pay rise (and generally asking for what you want) A simple framework for communicating your strengths Harriet Minter is a journalist, author and flexible work specialist. She focuses on a variety of issues relating to women, the future of work, media and diversity. She has written for publications including The Guardian, The Times and The Pool. She has a monthly column in Psychologies magazine. She is a regular speaker on women’s rights, organisational change, workplace diversity and just getting stuff done. She has given two TED talks and appeared on the BBC and Sky News. As well as her media work she coaches individuals to help them achieve their professional goals, and provides brands with diversity and content marketing consultancy. Follow Harriet @harrietminter on instagram and twitter www.harrietminter.com Her book "WFH - Working from Home" is available on Amazon or bookshop.org              

Ep 43 How to work from home successfully with Harriet Minter

I’ve been running on autopilot lately, head down constantly focusing on the next task.  So I’ve taken a few days out at the end of my financial year to stop and do some reflection and I found it really powerful.  So in this episode of the Influence & Impact podcast I thought I’d share some of the powerful questions I use to reflect and course correct when I’ve been running on autopilot. We’ll be exploring what success actually means to us, uncovering what’s driving our behaviour and how we can wake up to and enjoy the moment more. The Meaning of Success "To laugh often and much; to win the respect of intelligent people and the affection of children; to earn the appreciation of honest critics and endure the betrayal of false friends; to appreciate beauty, to find the best in others; to leave the world a little better; whether by a healthy child, a garden patch or a redeemed social condition; to know even one life has breathed easier because you have lived. This is the meaning of success." --Ralph Waldo Emerson Find out more about my Confidence to Lead programme for women in their first few years of management gain confidence, communicate more powerfully and make more impact at work at https://www.carlamillertraining.com/confidence                

Ep 42 Are you running on autopilot?

20 years ago I took on my first management role.  It was much more of a personal development journey than I ever imagined it would be because it triggered all of my doubts about myself, all my unhelpful stories and it highlighted how much I didn’t know.  I wished that management and my team members came with a manual I could read so I could do it right without risking making any mistakes. In this episode I’m sharing the things I wish my 26 year old self had known about managing.  These are the things that would have made my life much easier and happier!  I hope they help you if you’re at the start of your management and leadership journey. Book your spot on my FREE How To Be A Respected Leader without being any less likeable masterclass at https://carlamiller.lpages.co/respected-leader-march-21 Find out more about my Confidence to Lead programme for women in their first few years of management gain confidence, communicate more powerfully and make more impact at work at https://www.carlamillertraining.com/confidence        

Ep 41 What I wish I’d know about managing

In today’s episode of the Influence & Impact podcast for female leaders I’m talking to Fiona Buckland, author of the book Thoughtful Leadership.  Fiona’s book beautifully describes what it means to lead consciously and authentically with self-awareness.  We chat about why we need thoughtful leadership more than ever, how to lead yourself effectively and what it means to be an authentic leader. Fiona is a life and leadership coach and facilitator, who supports people to be better leaders of themselves, so they can be the leaders our world needs. A Fulbright scholar with a Ph.D. from New York University, her clients include The Wall Street Journal, Dow Jones, Alexander McQueen, Viacom and Twitter. In addition to her own private and corporate coaching practice, she also leads in-house leadership programmes, as well as public workshops and courses, Guardian Masterclasses on Inner Critics, Imposter Syndrome and Self-Direction, and has contributed to The Guardian and the Independent. She is also a guest lecturer in Coaching at Birkbeck University of London and on the faculty of The School of Life, where she was previously Head of Learning. Her book Thoughtful Leadership is published by Leaping Hare Press. Follow Fiona on instagram @fionabucklandcoaching   Book your spot on my FREE How To Be A Respected Leader without being any less likeable masterclass at https://carlamiller.lpages.co/respected-leader-march-21                            

Ep 40 Thoughtful Leadership with Fiona Buckland

This is part two of my series on perfectionism and overworking and in this episode of the Influence and Impact podcast I share with you 6 practical strategies you can start using today to help you become successful without breaking yourself in the process. If you want to adopt a more sustainable and enjoyable way of working yet still get great results this episode is for you. If you’d like know more about my new Confidence to Lead programme for women in their first few years of management visit https://www.carlamillertraining.com/confidence Take the Leadership Quiz here: www.carlamillertraining.com FREE ONLINE MASTERCLASS FOR FEMALE LEADERS - Stop Worrying About Work & Get More Done! www.carlamillertraining.com  

Ep 39 Practical strategies for tackling perfectionism

For years I thought that I was doing well in my career because I worked so hard and held myself to such high standards.  Then I realised that those strategies were actually causing as much harm as they were good.  I coach a lot of high achieving women, at all levels and perfectionism in its various guises, crops up all the time.  We may not consider ourselves to be perfectionist but often it looks like overworking, trying to be in control of everything in your life, procrastinating and fear of failure.  In this episode of the Influence & Impact podcast I’d like to help you to identify and reflect on any unhelpful patterns you may have around perfectionism so that you can stop holding yourself to such impossibly high standards. If you’d like know more about my new Confidence to Lead programme for women in their first few years of management visit https://www.carlamillertraining.com/confidence Take the Leadership Quiz here: www.carlamillertraining.com FREE ONLINE MASTERCLASS FOR FEMALE LEADERS - Stop Worrying About Work & Get More Done! www.carlamillertraining.com  

Ep 38 Why perfectionism and overworking could be holding you back

Starting a new organisation can be daunting at the best of times but starting as a leader when everyone is working remotely adds new levels of complexity.  So in this episode I’m sharing my advice on how to start a leadership role in a new organisation.  I talk about being intentional about the impression you want to make, getting aligned on expectations, building relationships with key stakeholders and much more. Plus I’ve invited a special guest in for a chat about this topic too. Victoria Wickenden is a member of my Influence & Impact programme who started a leadership role during lockdown.  She shared her top tips in a brilliant article and I invited her on the podcast to talk about what she has learnt from her experience and she shares some great insights and ideas. You can read Victoria’s article at https://www.linkedin.com/pulse/on-boarding-remotely-lessons-from-coivd-new-starter-victoria/ *** Want to fulfil your potential as a leader? It starts with understanding your strengths – and what’s holding you back! Take the Leadership Quiz here: www.carlamillertraining.com FREE ONLINE MASTERCLASS FOR FEMALE MANAGERS AND LEADERS - Stop Worrying About Work & Get More Done! www.carlamillertraining.com        

Ep 37 How to start a new job well

In this episode of the Influence & Impact podcast for female leaders I’m chatting to Lizzie Martin of Work Life Mother about how to return from parental leave with confidence and how as leaders we can support parents with this transition. We talk about how you can prepare for your return, negotiation with your line manager, the skills we learn from parenting and getting yourself back in the work mindset before you return. Lizzie is an executive coach, former senior leader of 10 years within the retail space, mother to two sassy daughters and founder of Work Life Mother. For the past 3 years she has been working with individuals and organisations providing parental transition coaching - aimed to support any professional returning from a period of parental leave so that they can come back to work with confidence and impact. Lizzie says “It was when I was on my first maternity leave that I truly understood the complexities of returning to work as a new parent. I saw many women who were left to figure it all out on their own, it's a particularly overwhelming period of what can be a long fulfilling career yet without the right support many women experience self-doubt, low confidence and poor career development support and this can mean they downshift their careers or leave the workforce altogether.” Visit Lizzie’s website www.worklifemother.com to download her free toolkit for managers, to find out about her upcoming masterclasses or for 1:1 coaching support. Follow Lizzie on INSTA here: @worklifemother *** Want to fulfil your potential as a leader? It starts with understanding your strengths – and what’s holding you back! Take the Leadership Quiz here: www.carlamillertraining.com FREE ONLINE MASTERCLASS FOR FEMALE MANAGERS AND LEADERS - Stop Worrying About Work & Get More Done! www.carlamillertraining.com        

Ep 36 Returning from parental leave with confidence with Lizzie Martin

Leadership is a delicate balance at the best of times, but no more so than when you’ve been promoted above your peers.  You may be experiencing all sorts of emotions, imposter syndrome could be in overdrive and in practical terms this is an awkward transition to manage.  Whether you are friends with your new direct reports or have experienced tension with them in the past there are things you can do to make this transition smoother.  In this episode of the Influence & Impact for female leaders podcast I share practical tools and insights for managing your own emotions, holding honest conversations with your direct reports and creating your new team culture. The doors to Influence & Impact, my 12 month group coaching programme for female leaders are now open.  Join me to tackle self-doubt, become brilliant at influencing and make more impact at work.  Find out more at www.carlamillertraining.com        

Ep 35 When you’re promoted above your peers

I had a moment of feeling old this week when I realised that I’ve been working for 25 years now!  I like to think I’ve accumulated some wisdom along the way and I also know I have lots of new listeners to my podcast so I thought I would share the career lessons I’ve learned from 25 years of working and share a bit about my career journey in the process.  This is a really honest account of the ups and downs of my career and I hope that you’ll find something in here that resonates with where you are  now.  I talk about believing in yourself, choosing the job that’s right for you, communication challenges, perfectionism and the downside to letting your identity be defined by your work. The doors to Influence & Impact, my 12 month group coaching programme for female leaders are now open.  Join me to tackle self-doubt, become brilliant at influencing and make more impact at work.  Find out more at www.carlamillertraining.com  

Ep 34  Career lessons I’ve learned from 25 years of working

Let’s face it - lots of us are struggling with motivation at the moment.  Here in the UK we are in lockdown 3 and even though there are plus points to working from home the whole situation is challenging in so many ways.  In today’s episode of the Influence & Impact podcast I’m going to share how you can stay motivated in challenging times.  I’m sure you think a lot about keeping your team motivated but this one is for you. You can now sign up for my free masterclass How To Be An Influential Leader without letting self-doubt hold you back link is https://carlamiller.lpages.co/how-to-be-an-influentialleader  It is available until 7 February 2021 so be sure to watch it whilst you can. I mentioned Liz and Mollie on Instagram in this episode here is their Insta: @lizandmollie

Ep 33 How to stay motivated in challenging times

Like many of the female leaders I work with, I have often found myself seeking reassurance, feedback and validation from others in order to feel like I am enough.  This is something I’ve been making a lot of progress with over the last few years and I see it come up again and again in the group coaching calls within my programme so I thought it would make a good episode for the podcast.  It seems that the isolation of working from home has really exacerbated this issue for many people as well.    In this episode of the Influence & Impact podcast I’ll be talking about where that need for validation comes from, how it is holding us back and the first steps you can take to stop giving your power away to other people and start getting your validation from yourself rather than others. You can now sign up for my FREE masterclass How To Be An Influential Leader without letting self-doubt hold you back (link is https://carlamiller.lpages.co/how-to-be-an-influentialleader).  It is available until 7 February 2021 so be sure to watch it whilst you can.    

Ep 32 Why we look to others for validation

This week’s episode of the Influence & Impact podcast for female leaders is all about gravitas.  What is it?  What do we need it for?  And how do we have gravitas when we need it most? Gravitas used to be a requirement for leadership, back in the days when leadership was about telling others what to do.  It is defined as dignity, seriousness or being solemn of manner.  Leadership has evolved since then and women no longer need to act like old men in grey suits to be taken seriously as leaders.  However there are times when we have to deliver serious news or address a room full of people who intimidate us and gravitas helps with that.  In this episode I’m sharing some tools you can use in those situations. I’ve got a FREE masterclass for female leaders coming up later in January – How To Be An Influential Leader without letting self-doubt hold you back.  Visit my website at https://www.carlamillertraining.com and sign up to my newsletter to be invited to the masterclass

Ep 31 How To Have More Gravitas

In this episode of the Influence & Impact podcast for female leaders I'm chatting to Eleanor Tweddell, author of the book "Why Losing Your Job Could Be the Best Thing That Ever Happened To You".  We talk about how to thrive when you've been made redundant, from dealing with those initial emotions to making decisions about your next steps.  We also discuss how leaders who are making colleagues redundant can handle it with kindness.  Redundancy is one of life's big events and Eleanor has done a wonderful job of taking her experiences and creating a toolkit others can use. About my guest: Eleanor Tweddell founded Another Door when she was made redundant and had a feeling she wanted to do something other than corporate life. She has worked for organisations such as Costa Coffee, Virgin Atlantic, Vodafone and Channel 4 - but it felt like it was time to change.  She said to get curious about what else was out there, and what else could she be doing. She wrote a blog, started a podcast and wrote a book 'Why losing your job could be the best thing to happen to you' published by Penguin in Nov 2020. Another Door is a club supporting people in the space in-between a door closing and the next door opening and takes people from shock to thriving. Another Door also works with businesses to handle redundancies fairly and supports their employees with outplacement workshops. To find out more about Eleanor you can connect with her on Linkedin, or visit  https://www.anotherdoor.co.uk/ If you haven’t done so already, please leave a review and thanks for your support of this show! For more leadership advice, join the Influence & Impact community by following my Influence & Impact page on Facebook or follow @thisiscarlamiller on Instagram. Find out more about working with Carla at https://www.carlamillertraining.com  

Ep 30 Talking Redundancy and Resilience with Eleanor Tweddell

The podcast for managers and leaders who want to develop themselves and their teams. Creating change starts with YOU and your change starts here. Short, weekly mindset tips from Carla Miller, leadership coach and founder of the Leadership Skills Lab - am online leadership coaching programme.