We close our conversation with The English Teacher with more timeline and processing. We talk about how parenting can trigger developmental trauma memories, but also how our past can help us be better parents. She also explains about her experience in a Christian “cult” and what that was like realizing she wanted out. We also talk some about switching, and how the last year impacted different parts’ access to safe people. We introduce the concept of Betrayal Trauma. Trigger warning for mention of abuse, trafficking, pornography, adoption, rape, and developmental trauma.

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Guest: Closure, Part Three

The conversation with The English Teacher continues, as she shares what it was like being groomed by a therapist for a relationship outside of therapy. We also discuss our transition away from The Therapist over the last year. We also discuss friendship issues, and what is healthy and what is toxic. Trigger warning for mention of abuse and grooming. There is also a “cult” reference about a church, but in context of stopping the cycle (no details or any SRA or MC references, only the evangelical reference).

Guest: The Processing, Part Two

Our interview with The English Teacher, about our timeline and putting pieces together. Trigger warning for references to abuse, therapist trauma, and church school experiences. No detailed disclosures specifically, but trauma timeline discussed and experiences referenced (including abuse and rape).

Guest: The Timeline, Part One

We explain the story of one of our only two lifelong friends, who was witness to some of our experiences. We tell the husband about our experience interviewing her for therapy and maybe the podcast. Trigger warning for references to abuse and trauma from parents, teachers, and youth ministers, but no specific disclosures or details are made. Also passing reference to mother’s suicide attempt, but only in a sentence and zero details or discussion.

The English Teacher

Emails!

Our guest is Veronique Mead, MD, MA, who shares about trauma and chronic illnesses. She explains about the ACEs and their impact. She describes the epigenetic effect of trauma. She shares how understanding these patterns opens up places for non-judgment and even compassion for ourselves and others. Trigger warning for abuse mentioned and referenced, but no details or disclosures. Links reference are included on the blog.

Guest: Veronique Mead, MD, MA

The husband helps us catch up the podcast. We talk about trying to find a new therapist, moving to the country because of the pandemic, and little T traumas and parenting. We talk about grief. He shares about Depression and medication management. Trigger warning for mention of spider in just the first five minutes of the episode.

Catching Up

Our guest today is clinical psychologist Ken Benau. He explains “relational trauma”, and why most people are not even aware of this trauma. He talks about shame and “pro-being pride”, and how they are conscious or not, and what makes each maladaptive or adaptive.

Guest: Ken Benau, PhD

We share about finding our new therapist, and try to find words for the experience of a new collective experience of Self. Trigger warning for reference to an Old Testament verse, but only in passing. Trigger warning also for reference to suicide, but no details or in depth discussion. No memories disclosed or discussed.

Restructuring

We interview Holly, a survivor with DID, about her journey in treatment, from diagnosis to pandemic. Trigger warning for reference to sexual abuse and also to hospitalization, but neither discussed in depth. No abuse details disclosed in this episode.

Guest: Holly

We discuss attachment with Dr. Linington from London, and explore the impact of caring styles on development and relational trauma. He explains different attachment styles, and what that process looks like in the interactions between the parent and child. He explains these Circles of Security, and also teaches us about Tetragrams.

Guest: Mark Linington (Circles of Security)

I am looking for clues. Trigger warning fireworks.

Fireworks Freedom

We conclude our discussion about relational trauma by exploring what that looks like and how it applies to healing, parenting, relationships, and friendships. We explain how this expands the understanding of memory time, and the process by which it invades now time. This is different than incident specific trauma, and explains why grounding or content work isn’t enough for healing and orienting.

Relational Trauma in Relationships and Friendships (Part 3 of 3)

We continue our discussion about our experiences at the ISSTD virtual conference. Our medical doctor friend shares what she learned about addiction, emotions, and the drama triangle - and how all of that works to help internal teamwork (even persecutors). We also share the big research we learned about relational trauma being more damaging than even physical or sexual abuse. No details or examples of specific abuses discussed.

Addiction, Emotions, and the Drama Triangle (Part 2 of 3)

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