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On a Road to Self Acceptance with Tara Massan and Seth Singleton We start out with the weather. The Butte and Camp Fires have made the air quality in Oakland very dangerous. I share a few personal examples including the joys and discomforts of wearing an air mask on a daily basis. Tara is enjoying a snowstorm that she describes as normal for where she lives in Minnesota. Tara welcomes the snow because it coats the bleak winter landscape when it is dry. When Self-Help Goes Bad 2 main sections Tara wants to address: The Dangers of Self-Help and Nonsense we have all heard. Self help can reinforce feelings of shame and guilt and being less than Self help can enable avoidance and procrastination Self help creates more analysis by paralysis Self help is a diminishing return It creates the urge to say I want to fix this… That’s great, if you want to live to your potential But diving in can mean I can’t fix a problem until I fix what is wrong with me Self Help is a business that sells information Not a product that is tangible To keep you hooked you have to keep fixing what is wrong with you You don’t have to be or think a certain way to be worthy It gets you hooked on the idea that you are not enough. What’s wrong with you? You should be doing this? Needing help Find a coach Guilt is not help You’ll Never Be Good Enough Until You Do This There’s Something Wrong You Self Help is a product of searching and discovery Specific examples and results Self-Help as a band-aid A form of avoidance Meaningful action Build a door to enter a room I kind of cut her off here Embracing the suck Rumi quote 4 Types of Nonsense 1. You learn to be successful by listening to successful people How many people have followed this advice and failed? How many did not follow and succeeded? Do you they have a hidden variable like luck or money? 2. Positive Psychology Good to ask what is the positive here? This has led to “Avoid Negative Thinking” Negative thinking can address deep confliction Negative reveals discovery about self Negative attitudes reveal unreal expectations It’s ignoring that you are sick You will experience both Sometimes its a bad mood and you don’t have to sit in it But to ignore it is to make yourself sick 3. Procrastination Leonardo da Vinci proved procrastination can birth a new idea It doesn’t make you a bad person 4. Follow your Passion Does not mean, "Screw your job." Or that you are Entitled to live your life only by your terms Your passion may not be your income It may not lead to greatness Beware Misrepresentation Passion requires work Invest in your passion You still have to do something about it 5. Developing an Awareness Think Critically Cultivating your Awareness Be comfortable seeing things that might not feel comfortable. This podcast is Part 3 of a series. For Part 1 click here Click here for Part 2 --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/seth-the-storyteller/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/seth-the-storyteller/support