Health & Fitness
When you hear the word sex worker, usually the first thing that comes to mind are prostitutes, and most of the time, they’re women. Modern SexTalks has significantly covered the topic of healing sex work with a variety of guests – most of them, however, are female. This time around, we’re looking at sacred sex service from a man’s point of view – and we have James Randall Smith as our guest resource. James is the founder of Sky Dancer Tantra Massage and Healing Arts. He is a sex worker-slash-healer, working with both men and women – aged 18 to 88. As a sexual healer, his aim is to have people awaken their potential for bliss through sacred sex. Today we discuss his backstory, shifting careers, the concept of sacred sex and understanding life doing sex work. We also just downright bro’d out. Extra, extra! For our male listeners, tune in if you are interested in a secret to prolonging sexual stamina. Areas we covered in our discussion include: Transitioning from a career in the music industry towards the spiritual path of sexual healing (06:26). The early beginnings of his sexual awareness and exploration (09:06). An interesting first date that became the gateway to finally transitioning into the spiritual path of sexual healing (12:49). What is MDMA therapy and how it impacts cognitive, emotional and sexual perspectives (14:20). How things started lining up for during his career shift, and how things went in the first few years of it (18:13). Where he places himself in the gender-sexual spectrum (19:53). Engaging sexually with someone you are not necessarily attracted or attached to (23:07). The unfolding of James' sacred calling of providing spiritual sexual pleasure (32:24). Personal challenges in a career that involves physical contact (35:58). What it means to awaken people to bliss, and the different ways to tap into this (38:10). The various methods and techniques James keeps in his toolbox as a sex worker (43:51). What scared sex is and its difference to the regular, typical sex that majority of society is accustomed to (44:32). What clients want and expect in James' sacred sex sessions and what actually happens in them (51:08). Special elixirs he uses to keep things in tip-top shape (58:32). What he wants his clients to have as a key takeaway from sessions with him (1:02:39). His advice to people who might be considering a similar path to take (1:05:03). The profile of his female clients and what they're looking for (1:08:07). Getting the buy-in of someone who might not necessarily be into spirituality (1:11:14). How can women distinguish and find safe and legit sex service providers (1:12:24). To get in touch with James, or check out his services, you may reach him through the following links: SkyDancer Tantra Massage and Healing Arts james@skydancer.ca James Randall Smith | Facebook Having been surrounded by divine feminine energy a lot with my roster of female guests, it is refreshing to hear a man’s point of view from time to time. This a whole new perspective to sex work, and I indeed enjoy talking to James about it. So much that I forgot to ask him some questions. Good thing he was nice enough to allow me to ask him a few more even after we "finished" the initial conversation. I hope you enjoyed this episode. If you think other people – specifically other men – can benefit from this episode share it with them. If you know other individuals living an off the beaten path who can be a guest… email me at info [at] theintimatelifestyle.com with your suggestions! Like us on Facebook and Instagram! And help us out by leaving a rating and a review in iTunes. Check out our Resource Page.