Health & Fitness
Introduction topicRebooting the showUpdate on what’s been happening during the hiatusExplaining the new formatTopicWhat Are Values?“a person's principles or standards of behavior; one's judgment of what is important in life” - Google DictionaryWe use our values to make judgements, particularly judgements of good and bad or right and wrongChase’s perspective on valuesPersonal constitution or bill of rightsValues (In Combination with Morals and Ethics) form a personal doctrine by which to liveAffects all decisions in LifeMuch like Laws, can be changed but it is a difficult processWhere Do Our Values Come From?ParentsPeersFriendsRelationship partnersSocietySociety at largeSubcultures we participate inTypes of ValuesFear-based valuesValues based on fear are those that cause you to take action in order to avoid somethingThink “have to”Common fear-based valuesSafety / SecurityAbsence of painAvoidance of conflict/confrontationPhysical appearancePower/ControlPrivacyReligousity (fear of hell)Recognition / RespectKnowledge (based in fear of the unknown)Consciousness-based valuesWhat do we mean by consciousness?Consciousness is your awareness of who you *really* are, as opposed to the “you” that you believe yourself to be, or the you that you were taught you were supposed to beConsciousness-based values are those that cause you to take action to bring something desirable into your worldThink “want to”Common consciousness-based values:Pleasure/sensuality (as opposed to absence of pain)Freedom (as opposed to security)“Those who would give up essential liberty to purchase a little temporary safety, deserve neither liberty nor safety.” - Ben FranklinAchievementVs recognition (internal to self)LeadershipVs. control/management(lead self before leading others)Adventure/noveltyAutonomySpirituality (vs. religiousity, internal/external)Chase Wolf: Notes on his experiences growing up in a religious household and finding spirituality outside of that setting.Personal growthIntimacy (vs privacy)CommunityA metavalue; valuing others who share your valuesImportant to know what your values are and what those of your community are to know whether it’s a good fitIf a conflict in values are present:Accept paying the “price of admission” to be part of the community and tolerate the differenceExamine your values, and decide whether yours should changeChoose not to be a part of the community, and find a community that is a better fit for youChase Wolf: Notes on changes in the Gamer Community values and the impacts thereof.Self-expressionFulfillmentTruthJusticeKnowledge (based in curiosity, as opposed to fear of the unknown)Chase Wolf: Notes on his curiosity in understanding the ABDL/Baby-Fur community allowing a shift in opinionHaving fear-based values is not necessarily a bad thing, but as a general rule, happier people tend to hold more consciousness-based values than fear-based valuesChase Wolf: Often, fear-based values are those instilled in us by friends, family, and society.Choosing Your ValuesThink of each new moment as a fresh opportunity to decide who you want to be; the greatest freedom is the freedom of choice“It is better to follow the voice inside and be at war with the whole world, than to follow the ways of the world and be at war with your deepest self” - Counselor and educator Michael PastoreWhat are your values?What situations or conflicts make you highly emotional, either positively or negatively?Think about what value was respected in the situations that made you feel positivelyThink about what value was not respected in the situations that made you feel negativelyEmpowering questions to ask yourself:What am I unwilling to tolerate?What am I unwilling to give up?What recharges my batteries?What really makes me feel excited?What experiences or activities have the most meaning for me?Why do I “need” the things I tell myself I need?When do I compromise my values? Why?What keeps me going when times get tough?Where is there a gap between who I am and who I really know myself to be?Why choose new values?When different values conflict with one anotherReconciling values with a relationship partner or a communityWhen acting according to a certain value just doesn’t feel rightWhen you realize a value is coming from outside, and isn’t something you really care aboutWhen a particular value is constantly transgressed, to the point that it is draining your energy and emotional bandwidthWhen failing to live up to a value is causing you great deals of shame, guilt, anger, anxiety, or fearHow Chase changed his values to serve him betterHow changes in Chase’s values allowed him to overcome issues in his lifeValues Assessment Toolhttps://www.dropbox.com/s/qg8hegtswsullwk/Values%20Assessment.doc?dl=0FeedbackNone for this weekQuestion(s)Subject: Mates now metamoursMy two mates recently broke up with each other leaving me in the middle. One mate is desperately clinging to me and the other is constantly offering advice on how to keep my other relationship healthy. How do I just let things happen without the other thinking they had a hand in it?Received via contact form (anonymous)CloserContact infoContact Viro:t.me/viroscicollietwitter.com/viroscicollieContact Chase:twitter.com/Chase_WolfBTGwolf4life.bandcamp.comFeral Attraction Twitter:twitter.com/feralattractfmFeral Attraction Facebook:facebook.com/feralattractfmFeral Attraction Contact Page:feralattraction.com/contactCoaching Services now available!As our audience has grown, many of our listeners and advice column readers have asked to speak with Viro or Metriko in a one-on-one setting so as to get help with resolving relationship issues or overcoming stumbling blocks that can trip us up on life's journey. Until now, it was not possible to offer such one-on-one attention, simply because of time constraints. Fortunately, Viro is now offering this kind of individualized attention as a service!For more information, visit feralattraction.com/coaching.Other businessPatreonJoel Kreissman is a published author of anthropomorphic science-fiction in his Para-Imperium universe. His first novel, The Pride of Parahumans, was published with Thurston Howl publications in 2017 and he has more free stories on his blog at https://paraimperium.wordpress.com/