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Raising Mentally STRONG Kids - Mentally STRONGHi Dr. B here, we are officially in the holiday season and December is coming and Christmas. I remember growing up my grandmother made such a big deal about Christmas. It was her favorite holiday, and it wasn't really a religious connotation for her. It was about giving. I really think maybe her love language was giving gifts and she would start shopping for Christmas gifts even before Thanksgiving. It's like it was in in Christmas, was always about the kids and so this Holiday season I would like to do a series on Raising Mentally STRONG Kids.We have a whole course on Raising Mentally STRONG Kids and it's not a how to course. It's a self-development and relationship course about how to have that kind of relationship with your child. It’s about learning the developmental milestones and what should I be expecting from my child. I want to start with just each week, giving you a few of tips on Raising Mentally STRONG Kids, It's a journey and it's not just 18 years, it goes into adulthood, but it is about that relationship that you have with them.And as we go into this holiday season and gift giving this whole concept around expectations of giving and receiving and those kinds of things and we want to make sure that we are teaching our children balance in that. One of my pet peeves in just our culture is that we have a lot of all-or-nothing thinking right, it's like oh I'm going to spend every dime that I have on making sure my kids get at least 10 gifts.And there's, I want this for them, and I want that for them and it's like, oh, you know you were bad this year, and so you're not getting anything, and we almost threaten children with putting put coal in your stocking and there's this all-or-nothing thinking and even if you think about that continuum, you're like, oh, I don't want to spoil my child. And so how do I have that balance in giving and receiving? And I just want you to focus on 2 things. one (and I'm going to say this one in every video) So hopefully you will always remember that relationships are a priority. If you have a solid relationship with your child. Regardless, if you feel like you've made mistakes or not made mistakes, you saw in the previous videos, I talk about mistakes that I've made with my kids, but relationships are a priority. If you have a relationship with your child, you can correct and guide and that will have strength as they grow, but also this all-or-nothing thinking, really think about how you're approaching the gift giving.I remember when my kids were small, I had seven children and it was like I needed to have the same number of gifts for each child and I wanted it to be like you walked out there and that it looked magical, right? So, it's all about these numbers of gifts and how magical looked when they walked out and a lot of those gifts were dollar store gifts, especially when they were young, and they didn't need it. But it was almost like I was trying to create a magic and that's OK to do. True, but also, it's not about the number of presents, it's about that relationship that we have. You know I kind of created this and then it was like literally over in in 5 minutes and did they really appreciate the time that was spent doing those things? All I'm saying right now is there's not a right way to do the holidays. What are you doing with your family? Does it feel right to you? Does it promote A relationship with your child and finding that balance? So, the two tips for this video are relationships or priority, and you'll hear that one in every video and balance. Finding that balance is not about the right number of gifts or the right amount of money, or the spoil or not spoil just finding balance. In using this time this month, this holiday season to grow in your relationship with your child because you are Mentally STRONG.