For as long as we've been in the lifestyle, we've been asked how you can tell if someone you pass is a swinger. Is there some sign, some secret handshake? What about women wearing anklets? Or men in black rings? We discuss these signs and more on this week's episode.

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Ep. 006: Field Guide to Swingers of North America

We recently ran afoul of an aggressive dress code that forced us into clothes that we wouldn't have otherwise chosen for our bodies. We talk today about finding your signature style, how to do it on the cheap, and working around dress codes as you navigate the lifestyle.

Ep. 005: The Tyranny of Pants

We're often told that the most important thing in the lifestyle is to be confident. But that can be hard to do. We all struggle with our own body insecurities, but how can we work to overcome that? That's the topic of today's episode!

Ep. 004: Body Image in the Lifestyle

Do you consider yourself kinky? We didn't until we went to Dungeon Night at Desire, where Mike tried electrosex and Kira got tossed around–consensually, of course. We talk about that experience, the murky legal history of Kink, and why Mike still doesn't care for the "kinky" label (even though he likes kinky things).

Ep. 003: Fantasies, Fetishes, and Kinks (Oh my!)

What do erotic massage, Sinbad (the actor) as a condom (the barrier), and being groped in the work lunchroom have to do with one another? They're all in the latest episode of the Life Erotique podcast! Join us as we talk about building a working model for acquiring ongoing, enthusiastic consent.What do erotic massage, Sinbad (the actor) as a condom (the barrier), and being groped in the work lunchroom have to do with one another? They're all in the latest episode of the Life Erotique podcast! Join us as we talk about building a working model for acquiring ongoing, enthusiastic consent. Mentioned on this episode: Sinbad condom PSA The Center for Sex Positive Culture Swingset Takes Desire 2019

Ep. 002: Consent is Sexy

Kira and Mike have been swingers for a long time but, recently, new experiences seem to be drawing them in a different direction. Join them as they discuss their journey thus far, and a recent trip to Desire Resort in Mexico that produced a lot of memorable firsts.

Ep. 001: First Times

Ethical non-monogamy can be one of the most rewarding ways for a couple to connect, but it comes with its own challenges. Join Kira and Mike Royale–a non-monogamous couple of over 11 years–every other Monday as they discuss swinging and its joys, trials, and tribulations. There's something for everyone, whether you're just opening up or have already been enjoying non-monogamy.