How we began decluttering our house and what it feels like to shed "things" and physical reminders from the past, while still keeping the memories (and making some extra cash).

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33. How to Declutter Your Life

Apologizing has become a default for many people, women in particular, but this episode - we challenge that norm and give you alternatives to apologizing for things that you don't need to be sorry about.

32. How to Stop Saying Sorry

Here's what we cover: Where the term "shirtstorm" comes from What Beth did in a moment of emotional overwhelm What Court resorted to frequently in times of emotional overwhelm How to tell when your brain has been hijacked by emotions The biology behind your emotional moments (it's science) The crazy technique Court learned that brings you out of an emotional response in really intense overwhelm A key to never living a LIFESTYLE of emotional shirtstorms What "corner people" are and what they must be willing to do And the mic check this episode is Whitney again...can you guess which song? We even tossed in some extra bloopers for you this time.

How to Navigate an Emotional Shirtstorm

We've all had to navigate tough situations and relationships, but what about when it's your own mom? No matter the condition of your childhood relationship with your mom, it changes when you become an adult. Your eyes open to a different perspective. Your appreciation may deepen for your mom, your differences may become even more obvious, and for some, you may even get to mend old wounds with the past behind you. We're here for all of it. The good, the bad and the ugly. This episode is listener inspired and we have a feeling that many of you may be able to relate.

31. Navigating a Changing Relationship with Your Mom

Sometimes we go through a lot of trouble in our relationships because we're different from each other and we haven't yet learned to identify what those differences are and how they play out. Find out what it means to be an internal processor, an external processor and how to ask for what you need to process in your OWN way.

Are you an internal or external processor?

This week, we're jammin' about what's giving us life right now and what's challenging us at the same time. Because the truth is, they can (and are) often one in the same. We cover 4 main topics: Untamed by Glennon Doyle The Autoimmune Protocol Diet BAMP (Becoming A Morning Person) The World's Shortest Newsletter 

29. What's Giving Us Life and Challenging Us Right Now

This episode, we’re open and honest about the fact that we’ve been butting heads a lot since quarantine and we’re finally realizing it’s because we’re straying a tissssh too far away from our love languages and what we need from each other. So we went back to the basics – we retook our Love Language quizzes, were surprised to see they’d changed so much and then it all became clear why we were annoying the shit outta each other lately. Listen in to hear how this tool can help bring new life to your relationship!

28. Love Languages and Why They're Important

Last week, we talked about coping skills to get us through the COVID crisis, and this week, we talk to someone who actually puts it into practice. (OUR FIRST INTERVIEW!) Tall Ticker Todd, as we like to call him, takes us through what his journey has been over the last 6 months trying to put a morning routine in place. Routines don't come natural for Todd, but as you'll hear him say - they make a BIG difference for him so he keeps on trying, even when it's tough. Head over to our show notes to see Todd's routine and check out some of the tools he uses - like an app called Alarmy ?

27. Morning Routines with Todd Norris

While it’s true that generations past have been asked to do FAR less than stay in their homes for the sake of a nation, that doesn’t mean this isn’t hard on people. You can both acknowledge that quarantine is making you crazy AND that it’s not the hardest thing anybody’s ever been asked to do. It’s not a dichotomy. You can acknowledge both realities. In fact, you need to or that restlessness and anxiety is gonna manifest itself in other ways ? and we don’t want that for you.

26. Coping with the COVID

In this week's episode, we look at 6 tactics for navigating conflict respectfully and effectively.

25. Fair Fighting Part 2: Do These 6 Things to Save Your Relationship

No matter how cool your other is...you may just wanna pinch their head off sometimes ??‍♀️ ...and that's fine...as long as you discuss it respectfully ? This week, we're featuring part 1 of a 2-part series on Fair Fighting. Basically, how to survive conflict without traumatizing each other, divorcing each other or otherwise harming each other. In this first episode, we talk about 9 tactics you do NOT want to use when engaging in battle...er...conflict. Identifying unhealthy habits is the first step (we dish our former worst offenses!) and then next week, we'll hit you with fair fighting tactics. ...well, not literally hit you ?

24. Fair Fighting, Part 1: 9 Tactics to Avoid

In today's episode, we're jammin' about a listener-requested topic, "how do I stop taking things so personally". So to A this Q, we cover how to stop getting so easily offended, what to do if you find yourself worked up by a comment someone made, how to proactively not offend others (as much as possible) while still speaking your truth, how to communicate with someone you disagree with or who may have misinformation and even some special backhanded compliments we've gotten during our lives ?

How to Get Unoffended and Invest Your Energy in Better Ways

In today's episode, we get to the heart of the matter - what the hell IS shame, what does it look like and how do we heal through it so we can stop letting it control us. We also identify the difference between shame, guilt, humiliation and embarrassment - and why learning to accurately identify your emotions is the first critical step to healing. The 2nd critical step is what to do to move past shame, and we cover that as well. If you wanna take a deeper dive into any of the books we resourced, we linked them up for you in the show notes! 

22. How Shame Shows Up and What to Do About It

In this episode, we'll walk you through the most important changes we've seen in our own lives since we started intentionally digging in and working on ourselves (trust us, you'll want these changes too!) We also discuss why those outcomes were impactful enough for us to want to share how we got there through a digital course.

21. Ditch Comfort and Dial In Greatness

Are you in a relationship? Have you ever been in a relationship? Do you ever plan on being in a relationship?? If your answer to any of these questions is "yes" - give this episode a listen. This topic was inspired by a researcher that we find fascinating (other than Brené Brown) - his name is Dr. John Gottman and he's studied 3,000+ couples over the course of 32 years. He's been studying other humans as long as we've BEEN humans. That's impressive. The information he shares is based on research, and that's the kind of information we like ? In this episode, we dish: How accurately Gottman can predict divorce within just 3 mins of listening to a couple in conflict ? (it's bananas) The #1 predictor of divorce...that can sneakily make it's way into your relationship What the 4 Horseman of the Apocalypse are (as he calls them) The 3 things that are present in good relationships The ratio of positive to negative interactions in solid couples vs. those who end in divorce What emotional bids are How conflict in the last trimester affects how your baby will be born What must happen if conflict occurs in front of your kids What shocking way the scientists were able to measure the health of a marriage via the children How to tell what conflicts you'll come back to over and over for the next 50 years ? Now for the good stuff...head over to our show notes for the resources we mention in the podcast: lifewithbethandcourt.com

20. 4 Signs That Your Relationship is in Trouble

Grab a cup of coffee (or pre-workout like Beth), go on a walk, mow the lawn - we don't care what you're doing, just take us with you. We have conversations that "focus" on topics that'll help you break free from living a mundane life on autopilot. The word "focus" is used lightly because we're tangent-prone.

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