Miscellaneous
Today’s episode is another powerful one in my throwback series which will be running over the coming weeks while I take some time to work on my writing. As I’ve mentioned before, I absolutely love throwbacks because they give us all the chance to reflect and see if we have been applying the information and strategies offered in these episodes, and to determine what we may need to do differently or where we may need to take more action in these areas. So once again, whether you’ve heard them before, or whether this is your first time, you are going to get something valuable out of these episodes, which just happen to be some of my favorites, so get your notepad ready and prepare yourself to soak up the knowledge and wisdom that is coming your way. In this episode, I want to talk to you about an all too common stumbling block for women in having the energy and time to accomplish their goals, and that is martyrdom behavior. I know that this is a category that I fell into for a long time, and today we’ll explore if you are showing up in that way as well, and I’ll offer some tools to help you move through it so you can start enjoying the crap out of life! We’ll begin by looking at just what the Martyr Complex is, where it shows up in our lives, and the costs associated with living out the martyr role. We’ll also review the part that guilt plays within this role, and I’ll share 5 steps you can take to help move you through martyrdom. As you’ve heard me say time and time again, we are not meant to have to struggle and suffer to have the life we want, but we are meant to enjoy life and having fun plays an important role within that. Today’s episode is your invitation to flip the switch, to shift your mindset, to change the behaviors, and to start to live your life in a very different way so that you feel happier, more fulfilled, and better prepared to move forward on your goals. As always, if there is a topic you would like me to discuss or a guest to interview on the podcast, please feel free to contact me at pr@kellytravis.net - I would love to hear from you! The Finer Details of This Episode: - The Martyr Complex, where it shows up, and the costs involved - The part that guilt plays in taking on the martyr role - 5 steps to help you move beyond martyr behavior Quotes: “We wrap our identity up in this thing where we have to be the one who is suffering and doing everything so that everybody else can enjoy their life.” “The suffering that some women feel boils down to contradictory and irreconcilable values.” “There is a lot of guilt that women experience when they are focusing on their career or their business and feel like it’s interfering with their responsibilities at home.” “On one hand, being a martyr is about experiencing the struggle and suffering and sacrificing yourself for the sake of others, and on the other hand, it’s about these false rewards you receive from behaving this way. And that’s what I want you to identify.” “The more we do things we want to do, the less resentful we are towards those who are enjoying life.” “No one else is responsible for giving you permission to set aside time for you – that’s on you…you are entitled to your own time…it is not a luxury, it is a necessity.” Show Links: Kelly’s homepage - http://www.kellytravis.net