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Siri Arti talks about her own Starchild Yoga™️ and offers an exclusive précis of her new Young And Wise programme, with five tips on dealing with teenage overhwelm and depression. Siri can be found on Instagram here: https://www.instagram.com/siriarti/?hl=en For help with any issues raised in this podcast, or for a free initial consultation, contact Tracy: Facebook: www.facebook.com/Tracy.Kimberg.Counselling.Therapy.Coaching/ Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/tracy-kimberg-9564a3193/ Instagram: www.instagram.com/tracy_kimberg_hypnotherapist/ Website: www.tracykimberg.com Welcome to another episode of the waves of clarity. I'm so excited about everything happening outside. Everything seems to be coming alive and I just love spring summer, watch on my walk every day. I notice the tiny differences that happen and I've even adventured into. Going for a sea swim twice already, which has been absolutely freezing, but so enjoyable and has just made me more exciting about the weather that is definitely changing. This week, my guest is Siri Arti, and she is an incredible woman that has got a deep passion for helping teenagers. Find happiness. Teenagers can be really complicated, but if you look deep within them, they are just like us human beings that want to be loved and accepted. If you find that you feeling very frustrated and overwhelmed with your relationship with your teenager, that is not what it should be. Then please get in touch. It's okay to talk to somebody about it and maybe just get a different perspective and perhaps even if necessary, find the help that you need. I think as parents, we all would love to have the feeling of accomplishment and success in achieving harmony and positive communication with our children. And it's not impossible. It is definitely possible. Siri does amazing things with teenagers. Um, and I'm not going to give too much away. She's going to tell you all about it in a minute. Um, but she's also a teacher, a mother, a trainer, an author, a students, and she calls herself an adventure as well. Which sounds really exciting. I like that part. Sorry. Um, when I was reading your bio, um, it really struck me how. Um, you obviously have fallen in love with what you do and you know, if someone has a passion for something and that they're doing, um, must really come from the heart. And I think then you really can change people's lives profoundly. Tell me a bit about this passionate love and this, um, mate for life is the relationship that you have with yoga. Oh, Tracy. Thank you so much for having me inviting me to it's an honor to, to be on your podcast. Gosh that, yeah, I, I heard a lot in those few minutes of you introducing me. Um, I agree that as I get older, I seem to become more adventurous. In fact, I'm more adventurous now than I've been for about 20 years. I think my journey with yoga. And, and the fact that it's been a lifelong, not lifelong, but a longterm quite intimate relationship is because I found, um, this very, uh, personal path to myself. And it's been, uh, it's been about 30, 30 plus years. I've been exploring yoga on and off, mostly on and then off. But I have had periods where I haven't practiced. And it just keeps revealing more and more of myself to myself. And that speaks to me of authenticity and authenticity is something that I try to bring to young people, especially the adolescent age group and young adults. Um, Where there may be feel more lost. Um, yeah, so I think the journey why I've been so enameled with it and it's because it's like Pete, the peeling of an onion, you know, and I don't feel like I'm anywhere near the center because I don't know if more layers keep coming, but, um, yeah. I find the journey of yoga, very adventurous, um, and fulfilling and yeah. But that's a personal journey, but then the work I do through the medium of yoga has just been, I can't even put that into where it's just so, so enriching as well. I'm going to make you put it in words, because that's my next question. I think we both have something in common when we, where we really want to help teens or adolescents feel authentically themselves and loved and just. Perfect because there are, you know, we all perfect and imperfectly. Perfect. I'd like to say nobody's actually at a hundred percent perfect, but we all unique. And what is it exactly you do with your yoga, with the teams? I think the word exactly. I can't, I can't really answer, um, because it's such a. Um, Oh, okay. So when, what I've learned is when I said before, I'm a young person or a group of young people, or a school or an organization, or just a single, you know, one-on-one session with the young person, I have to meet whatever. It's present in that young person. So there are dip into this kind of decades of knowledge base and skills, and it's like looking in a sweetie sharp, you know, w what, what, what can I reach for, that's going to meet this person, um, in this moment. So it's not an exact thing. I don't, I don't do something exactly. I'm an extremely intuitive, that's absolutely brilliant because nobody is the same, you know? And, um, I think that you have to adapt your session just like I do with each client. I mean, you can't be too rigid and structured. You, you need to actually connect with that person in front of you or that group of people. I agree. I think we, um, we'll probably rebel that we have a lot in common as we get to know each other, Tracy, but I'm just thinking maybe you're asking me what exactly do I do rather than like, how, how am I with young people? And I say that I'm a yoga teacher. Teacher am a yoga teacher trainer, and I'm a yoga therapist. So there's a lot of yoga in there, but also what's, I think for me, what's beyond that is my teaching capacity. So I'm also a teacher like a, um, And earlier as Montessori educator and my whole fascination and curiosity with people has been around how to meet them and then how to bring them to themselves. So, although I am yoga, yoga, yoga, um, very much teacher teacher, teacher, um, but from, from an unschooling point of view, so from a very non authoritative, but, you know, cautiously guiding. Kind of way. And tell me, sorry, I didn't give you this question. It just came to my mind and I think I'm going to ask it to you. What is it about your story? That has made you so connect. So with these youngsters personal, and also, I don't know if you know this Tracy, but at the moment I'm in the process of doing a training with trauma was what is it called? The healing of trauma or the wisdom of trauma through the compassionate inquiry process. And, um, So I'm kind of, it's a four day training and I'm sitting in us at the moment. So that question is, is pretty, um, uh, it's really spot upon. It's really, um, perfect because, so I created a modality of teacher training called star child yoga, which you've read about, and that is really. The bulk of what I do. So I certify adults to work with young people in the capacity of a yoga instructor and why that came to be was from the lack in my, in my childhood. And that's not to say that my mom and dad were anything other than grades. They did the best they could, but, um, there were a lot of things missing and that's created a real, a real imperfection in me, an unworthiness, lack of lovability and all the things that are making my body shake right now. And when I became a mother and then a single parents, I just thought if I could wave a magic wand and let her touch every single child on the planet. What would I bring? And I created this modality, which is star child yoga, which has a mixture of education and yoga to basically help children feel whole, just like they belong. So it, it, it definitely came from a lack, from a lack, you know, from a real, nothing specific happened to me as a child, but there was, you know, I think that's so important because you will have an understanding, which is what. These children need, they need to be understood. Thank you for sharing that. That was really, I'm sorry that I just threw that in there and it just came in at the moment. That's fine. The next question is the program. Let's call it a program that you do with, with these children. What is the transformation that you see? If you can walk me through. Like almost like a case study where someone walks in and, and I'm happy to walk you through a kind of a case study or situation, but I think I just want you to know that, um, I don't necessarily look longterm. Like when I working with, um, a person I'm very, very, I'm acutely aware that it's all about the moment. So if I can bring a person to the present moments. And in their person moments, I can have a transmission of you are enough, you know, that this is where it's at. Um, Just for one moment for me. That's that is the gift. That is, that is my gift. Um, so that happens too through this technology that I've created through all the skills that I've learned. So I just wanted you to know that, like, I don't have a term approach with people. I just sit with them in the moment and in the moments, um, If there can be one moment of, of magic, then that becomes a point of reference for them. Then 10 years down the line, they will remember there was at one moment was serious. You were just so completely held. So that's like, that's important to me that people understand. I don't have like, um, a planning procedure with, with people. I think what's. What, um, what happens is step by step through the practice of body, kind of it's all about movement is sematic. So it's movement in the body and awareness. So it's mindfulness and body ultimately dropping the mind into the body, brings us to the present moment and with teenagers. They would be very seldom a moments in their day that they feel present or even connected to this third dimensional body. Um, So that's really what I'm, I'm holding space for that to happen, you know, through the practice of the movements and my holding the container and the technique of dropping down, dropping down, dropping down really gently, a gentle, compassionate inquiry. Yeah. I'm just, um, sharing with them a moment to be present with themselves. Um, you know, in today's society, I find that with everything that the children are exposed to the teenagers, I don't know. Um, I know they don't like being called teen children when they're teenagers, but, um, let's call them the adolescents, the young adults when they are, um, in involved in the world. Like it is now, it's so overwhelming. You know, they have little time to actually, like you say, just be in touch with what they want. What they can do. They so pressured to just conform to what everybody else wants, what everybody else says. You know, I'll have a daughter she's turning 16 soon and. At the moment she has to make this very important life choice to decide what subjects she needs to take for a levels. And if she wants to go to a levels and what are you going to be when you grown up or what you're going to study at university. And it's very overwhelming, you know? Um, and just for them to take that time to be quiet and listen. And like you said, I love that word. You said being held. Wow. You know, that's so that's what they need. Yeah. I mean, they need a lot and need a lot. I think they need a lot more than what we are currently, what, what society is currently offering them. Um, and I agree with you. I mean, I think for me, what I see a lot of is this rumination, this overthinking this either living in the, in the past or in the future, but very seldom, um, are the clients that I work with or my children or the peer group that you know, is an extension of my children's. Um, my children's peer groups, very seldom. Do you have a conversation with, um, a young person who. Is totally present, you know, with like an accountable and grant. I mean, grounded, like there is just this, this real lack headiness, you know, that's just, I'm quite disconnected from the body often. And. And yeah. I mean, obviously that breeds enormous anxiety and long-term, you know, that can lead to depression. So, and I think you and I both know, and the world knows we're in this epidemic, proportion of depression and anxiety, and yet people. So, yeah, I just, sometimes I would just want to stand on their feet, you know, like ground them into the earth. And a lot of, I talk a lot about the earth and with my, um, beautiful young. So it is hard to find a word, right? Because adolescence is awful. Teenagers is like teenagers. Don't like to be called teenagers. So I racked my brain for my next program, which I've been creating for three years and I've called it young and wise. And sometimes people miss here. And I think I'm saying young and wild, and I actually think it's both, they are wild, but they have an inherent wisdom in them. So that's why I kind of always shorten it to young people. But what I'm meaning is young and wise, which is this population for me, that is like from 13 to 24, Which is actually adolescents 12 to 24 is an adolescent. So yeah, which is even becoming a younger, you can even move that number down because also, um, Y because of social media and things that they exposed to. Very bad. And then it gives us, um, I remember reading something that you said that you love sitting down and talking to them and just listening and that's, that's, that's the key, you know, People often think that they've got nothing to say. They're not really listening to the two that age group. And they've got so much to say, and I think they need to be listened to more. That's the thing. Yeah. I mean, I think Casey, this week, I love this, um, this understanding that, um, you know, young people. For me, they are so interesting that, I mean, I'm not passionate about this age group. There's 12 to 24 age group because I find them absolutely fascinating. Like when you sit down and you really kind of present with young people and you get them talking and I don't know why, but they'd talk to me. I mean, I, I hear everything from young people. More than I sometimes ask for, but I just find them absolutely riveting, you know, like they are the most creative, like that population of it's the most creative your mind is ever going to be like, when you get to 30, 40, 50, you never going to have that vibrant creativity that you had when you were 20 or 16 or 18, or, and I think adults really forget that. When they, when an adult calm be present with themselves. They're never going to see that beauty, you know, in, in the young person sitting opposite, then they're just gonna know young people get such a bad rep. They just get like delinquents, you know, they get called all these things, drug, like all the negativity is only because I think adults can be so scared to really sit with it. I mean, I, I am privy to drugs. Like the stories that I hit, the sexual. Kind of just the things I've been told and I just sit down and listen and, um, but still I never ever, ever see that person who's talking to me in an, in a negative light. Like, I don't know. I just have this capacity to see the illumination dislike brightness. Um, even, even in the most depressed young person that I've worked with. I still see this cool. I dunno like a star, you know, star child, this, and that's what I work with. I just go in and I work with a tight, even if it's a tiny little flame inside of them, you know, that's, that's what I connect with. Hi, my name is Fiona and I'm recording this. Um, in respect of, uh, the need for help for teenagers, um, mental health. Um, I met Tracy a couple of years ago. Um, when my daughter was really struggling with her mental health following, um, bullying at school, um, Tracy undertook 10 sessions with her, um, of therapy. And I have to say she's absolutely, truly amazing. She is one of the comments. Kindest people. I know, in fact, I think I'd probably say she's some almost serene, um, if I'm to be, and she turned my daughter's life around, she gave her coping strategies ways to manage her anxiety, helped her to rebuild herself. Same. Um, and during to a happy, confident, um, teenager here is now, um, after college, um, admittedly, when these strange times of COVID, um, because of the strategies that she's learned from Tracy, because of the help she had, um, she's managing to thrive. Quite COVID. Um, I know the strategies that Tracy has given her. She's also used herself to town friends, and I think that that will be something that will stay with her lifelong. Um, I'd just like to say thank you, Tracy, because thanks to you. My daughter is, um, an amazing human being. If you are worried about your teenager's mental health, I would ask. They strongly encourage you to consider a therapy for your child. It's can make such a difference in their lives. If you could give, um, the people listening to parents, um, and they say might be some young people listening, five top tips on how they can deal with, um, Feeling that they are overwhelmed and anxious and maybe even depressed. Yeah. Actually you mentioned this, actually, I've listened to a few of your podcasts and I've heard that you asked this question and it's the only one I kind of gave a bit of thought to. Because I taught in here quite late actually. And I have given this some thought and, and actually it's really beautiful because if I could pray, see my whole young and wise program and summarizes, it will be these five points. So I'm going to give you the nuggets of my entire training that hasn't even been published and released yet. So basically they five words and that is move. Think, feel. Connect communicate. And for those parents who are listening and actually pertinent to everybody, to every single one of us, whatever age, these are kind of the five parameters of my teacher training. And actually, I didn't realize, I mean, I know that because I've written the teacher training. Um, so the movement is. Moving the body. So it's a physicality. So if you ask for five points, you know, towards wellbeing, it's like, Moving the body, but I want to be really clear that it has to be a movement that makes your heart sing. So I'm not here to say everybody should do yoga because it may not be your jam. Like it just happens to be mine. Um, so movement would be anythings like hula hooping dancing. I told my daughter who's 20 yesterday. Get your roller skates and roller skates through Bristol. Like. And that makes your heart sing. You know, don't go and pound the pavements of London. If you hate running, like I'm just, you know, I believe anyway, and move your body, do something that makes your heart sing. Um, moving the body is of paramount importance because of the connection with the mind and body. And then thing is the mental capacity. So it's thinking about the mind and what I'm saying here is. Befriend your mind, like befriend your mind, like all of you listening, befriend your mind because the mind in its basic nature is ruminative. It's super highway. We try and get that super highway down to one track sometimes, but the basic nature of the mind is to analyze and be cognitive and think, and be negative and positive. Um, I'm just saying befriend, befriend your mind, you know, let the thoughts come. Don't be too judgmental. Let them go. But just kind of just know that that's what the mind does. Yeah. Well, so the mind connects with the body. So the feeling that the thinking part also can connect to the movement parts, and in the feeling part is like, just lets your emotional body, right. It's like just actually let them rise. Let the emotions rise good and bad. The shit ones, the great ones. Like they are all welcome. You know, let the rage rage, honestly like to teenagers who are fucking angry. Excuse me. Let's arrange come out like scream, dance, put some really hectic music on, just go for it. Um, It's not only that we have space for good, positive thinking emotion, like, so with, when it comes to emotions, like, let those emotions out, let them get to express them, dance them out, shake them out, run them out, whatever, and let them actually lead you. They'll tell a story, right? If you feel angry, listen to the anger, it'll tell you where to go and it will ultimately lead you back to yourself. Very long-winded. I love it. And then, yeah, I mean, I think we have a tendency to suppress emotions and especially a hack for parents to say to an angry child and we are all fucking angry. Like everybody's angry, you know, I mean, from childhood, um, Don't be so angry. Don't be so angry. You know, don't be angry with Derby Derby at my mother used to say, don't be so deep thinking. Like there's always that kind of control. So I'm saying a little, those emotions arise and then move and then watch your mind. And then connect connect is a tricky one because there is, um, Cool connection is the one that's missing in, in these kind of certain models of psychology. It's like I was saying to people in the NHS about this program, and I've said like, what's missing is connection. Like they don't know how to connect with young people because they've got these CBT programs and, but the connection is missing. Um, so the fourth one is connection and connection equals belonging. And like how many people, just, how many people don't feel that they belong? How many kids have parents who will listen to a podcast or sitting in their bedroom, not belonging. They don't feel like they belong on the earth. They don't feel they belong in their peer group. They don't feel they belong in a family. It just it's what teenagers feel like. Right. We don't. So in connection, I'm saying connect to something. Anything that makes you feel like you belong. That could be your pets. You know, when you hug, like I've got a dog. When I hug her, I just feel connected to something. It could be your peer group. It could be whatever a group on WhatsApp, whatever. It doesn't matter what it is. It could be walking in nature, but whatever it is always make sure when the day you have a moment where you feel totally lucky belong. And then the last one is communication. And this is also, this is our connection as quite a tricky one, but I feel like it's really important to find one person you can talk to, whether you're a young person or an adult or parents, whatever, like peer to a therapist, your hypnotherapist, your counselor, your yoga teacher, your school teacher, your dog, your mom, your dad, your aunt, your uncle, your best friend. Um, Whether you can kind of, you know, rice in a journal, like whatever, just it's gotta be some, there has to be somebody that you trust. And someone who's earned your trust and then speak your truth. All of, you know, everybody, um, young and old, like find someone that you can really tell them, how should you feeling? And also how, how great you are so many people who said, I felt so great during Okta, but I feel really guilty to say that, you know, and I'm like, just own it. Um, So, yeah, that's communication is self expression. Again, it doesn't have to be in words or language, it can also be dancing art, you know, communicate through your dance. Like my son, he's 17. He makes music, he's doing music production and he really, really communicates through the music he makes I can, you're playing me a piece of music he's made and he tells me a story. Oh my God. It's I can feel it. You know? And he's, he's not very. Talkative. So he's finding a medium through communication through music. So those are my five top tips, plastic. I love them. And, um, definitely if, if this is a taste of, um, what your new program is like, then wow, it's going to be. Huge. Um, I'm excited to hear all about it on another time. It would be great. We coming very close to the end of this, um, chats that you've said so much and so much has been said, which has been really very valuable to the person listening. I always think what if somebody is listening and we touched something that. By saying, well, that's me. What would you like to say to that person? Yeah. I want to kind of say that life is a struggle and you know, my friend and I, we did a session a couple of weeks ago together. And we came to this Leonard Cohen song, um, could Anthem and she made me listen to us and I've been listening to it ever since. And obviously Leonard Cohen is a poet, but it's about, there's a crack. You know, there's a crack. So basically it's about darkness and in the darkness, there's a crack, but through the crack is, you know, comes the lights. I just want to say, like, I just want to acknowledge, you know, and not dismiss the struggle because I think I've certainly had a, really, a life full of struggle. And I really, really see the light. Like, I really, really experienced myself, even in this moment, just being so happy and full of joy. And I sit in struggle a lot of the time and I facilitate struggle and I see struggle in my own children and their friends pain. Oh my God. Like such suffering and pain in young people. And I just want to say that. There's a light, you know, there's, we are all, we're literally made up of cosmic light. And I know this is like the, kind of the more cosmic or mighty icons actually such in front of you or with you without. Saying that I am a huge believer in the mystery, the mystery of life that's through the struggle, through the hardship, through the suffering, there really is a journey back to yourself and that journey back to self as this journey to the cosmic part of who we are, the star dust, you know, the star child, the young and wise, um, the parents who doesn't think they know, but really do, um, So to drop into this body to be as present with yourself as possible to take three deep breaths, whenever you feeling a little bit anxious or overwhelmed, um, and just drop the mind into the body. Just come to my meditation class. That's all we do. I just tell my people all the time, just off the mind into the buddy, dropped the mind into the body. It's not like it's all going to be okay. I'm not going to plicate anybody. It's it's, you know, like learn that through the suffering. You really do find the lines and holding space for people who are suffering. We can hold the space as a lighthouse. You know, tell me a bit about what you do online at the moment with, um, lockdown and all that happening. You've been really busy. Tell me about the classes that you do online and where people can get hold of you if they would like to, um, get involved in that. Yeah. I mean, most of the time at the moment, I'm actually studying some, doing quite a hardcore academic study. Um, and, but I, I do train my star child yoga teacher training online, which there's one happening at the moment, um, that is for adults to become even better parents. It's actually a very strong, conscious parenting course, but it actually certifies you to teach yoga, but it takes you on a self-development journey. I teach a weekly meditation class. I do some yoga classes, but that's not really my priority at the moment. I'm all online and I teach. Um, what's really passionate for me. It's the moment where it feels really strong. What I'm motivated towards is I'm doing yoga therapy with young people online, and that's really rewarding and quite deep reaching. And, um, yeah, that comes in different forms of meditation. I know you said medication, but I actually, I do controversy silly. How do you say that controversially? Um, call my meditation meditation medication. Meditation is a type of medic medication that you don't swallow. Yeah. Yeah. It's like, have you taken your daily medication? You know, and yeah. So I do, I'm doing these free teenage. Um, they actually, it's actually for 16 to 24 year olds because I've got a real impulse to work with the young adults at the moment who are not being so well supported in society. So I do free meditation classes where I'm teaching meditation, embodiment practices, body sensation, tracking, um, all very accessible. Um, and online and I mean, I guess the only way it really, I'm not, I don't have a website on any of the work that I teach. I just kind of do it, but it's mostly through Instagram that I post what I'm doing. Okay. So if somebody wants to join the young and wise, um, meditation class that you do, if somebody, um, would like to join, where can they do that? I think the best thing is to contact me through Instagram, which is seriality quite easy to find on Instagram because, um, that's. That's probably a bit, a better platform for young people as well. And I promote that class. What I will do is I will, um, put the link for your Instagram account in the notes, um, and people can find you just by clicking on that. Yeah. And also I'm also starting to, to move towards doing, um, I D I'm a power facilitator as well. I work shamanically with cacau and, um, ceremonially and I'm, um, creating a program for young people as well. So using cacau as a means to kind of help young people just sit and process with themselves and find some, some joy and, um, That's something I'm working on. So I'm looking forward to actually being in person with groups of young people and serving cacao to them and taking them through some beautiful processes and imaginative journeys. Lovely. I'll be on Instagram soon, soon, soon, as soon as we allowed all differently. Um, I'd like to bring my daughter to do one of those. It sounds really amazing. Um, thank you so, so much for joining. I can't tell you how much I enjoyed talking to you and learning from you because as a therapist, obviously you have to learn to be quiet and listen. So. Um, I went to a discussion the other day, um, and they were talking about the seven habits of success. And one of those is listen, because the more you listen, the more you learn. So I hope that everybody like me listened and learned from you today because. I did. It was really amazing. Thank you so much. and I hope that you'll be back soon and sharing more of what you're up to. And of course, we'll get you over here to where I live to come and do some of that cut out. Serving. It sounds amazing. Oh, it's been such fun. Um, I do love talking about what I do because I do love it so much, which is the way you started this conversation, but my life long passion for yoga and young people. So, um, it just makes me just feel so. So happy when I speak of this work and I'm so excited that it just keeps evolving and evolving and, and, and I'm, you know, I love the work you do too. Tracy. I've been following that as well as, um, so I hope that more of us can come together and collaborate and make the world a better place for young people. And that brings us to the end of today's podcast. Thank you so much for your time for listening to our discussion. I'm sure you found Surrey just as wonderful and warm as I did. She is such a lovely person. Please remember if you do have anything that resonates with you, get in touch. I'd love to have a discussion with you about your relationship with your team. And then I'd like to leave you with this. Um, very important message. Life gets exponentially better. Once you stop worrying about what other people think and start doing what you really want to do. And this goes for us and for our children.